Motherhood advice loves to say “you just need a village.”

But what if you don’t have one, or the help you’re told to rely on isn’t actually supportive, safe, or consistent?

In this episode, I’m breaking down why the “village” narrative often falls apart for modern moms, especially those parenting without family nearby, building a business, or navigating special needs support.

We talk about:

• Why “just ask for help” isn’t neutral advice
• The difference between self-support and martyrdom
• What it really looks like to hire your village without guilt
• How plans and systems matter more than vague support
• Building community slowly (even when it feels lonely)
• A practical snapshot of special needs services and where to start
• And why carrying less doesn’t mean lowering the bar

This episode is for the mom who’s capable, exhausted, and tired of advice that assumes life is simpler than it actually is.

You don’t need to do it all alone, but you also don’t need to wait for help that may never come.

Sometimes, the most supportive thing you can build is a plan.

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