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Having a "should list" feels terrible, and it’s ineffective

I printed my should list and processed it with the Lord. That looked like asking Him questions and seeing what He highlighted to me - if you care to watch, here’s a link to the unedited video of me processing live.

In the process, I saw that more than half of the items contained "more" or "better" and carried condemnation. Yuck!

When I saw how much condemnation there was, I decided to do a Heart Doodle with Jesus, asking, “If I put the way I feel in a picture, what would that look like?” The picture was trying to hit an archery target that was too far away and moving.

God gently spoke, “Undefined is not kind.”

The actions the Lord told me to take out of this process were:

1. Count my steps - every movement in the right direction counts and deserves to be noticed.
2. Evaluate each “should”. Is it a real need or a want? Can you trash it?
3. If it is a need or want, define what it looks like and the steps to complete it.

God doesn’t have a “should list”, only invitations to trust and experience Him.

00:00 Why Should Lists Hurt

00:15 30 Shoulds and Shame

01:59 Heart Doodling Process

03:14 Do More Do Better Trap

04:45 Archery Target Metaphor

06:32 God Has Invitations

07:14 Sorting the 30 Items

09:41 Three Steps Forward

11:30 Define Needs and Wants

13:03 Next Steps and Support

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