You keep praying for God to change him.

To make him more consistent. More committed. More willing to show up, follow through, and become the man you know he could be.

But what if you have become so focused on asking God to change the man that you are missing what this relationship is revealing in you?

In this episode, Kim Velez explores why a man’s inconsistency can expose deeper beliefs about love, worth, rejection, and what you believe you have to do to be chosen.

His behavior creates the circumstance.

Your response reveals the identity you are living from.

When you chase after he withdraws, make yourself easier to keep, accept less than you truly want, or assume his silence means you are not enough, those reactions are showing you the beliefs that still need to be brought to God.

You can deeply love Jesus and still have areas of your mind that have not yet been renewed.

Romans 12:2 calls us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds, and 2 Corinthians 10:5 tells us to take our thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to:

• Recognize what your relationship patterns are revealing about your identity • Stop making a man’s inconsistency mean something about your worth • Identify the beliefs underneath chasing, settling, and fear of losing him • Bring limiting beliefs honestly to God and invite the Holy Spirit into them • Renew your mind around love, rejection, worth, and being chosen • Stop praying only for the circumstance to change and begin allowing God to transform what you believe • Make different choices in love from a renewed identity

Maybe the prayer is no longer only:

“God, change him.”

Maybe it becomes:

“God, show me what this relationship is revealing in me.”

Because when God renews what you believe, what you are willing to accept, participate in, and choose in love begins to change too.

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