She told me she thought she was mostly fine. Just wanted to tighten a few things. Twenty minutes into our second call, she stopped mid-sentence and said: I think I've built myself a cage and called it a business. That's who this episode is for.

What this episode is about

I want to introduce you to something I've been mapping with hundreds of women like you for years. It's called the Moxie Ascent, and it describes the actual journey, not the aspirational version, the real one that women running businesses while raising families move through.

There are four zones. I'm going to walk you through all of them. But I'm going to spend the most time on the one I think most of you are sitting in right now, because it's the hardest one to see clearly when you're inside it. From the outside, it looks like success. At 11pm when the house is quiet and you let yourself think the thought you don't usually let yourself think, you know the truth.

The work that gets you out of this zone is specific. And I'm not willing to hand you advice designed for a different zone and watch it fail you again.

What you'll walk away with

• A map of the four Moxie Ascent zones so you can locate yourself honestly, not where you hope you are
• Recognition of the myth running the show in the Light Green zone (the most dangerous one, and the one most Tenacious Integrators are in when they find me)
• Why "coping really well" is not the destination, and what the gap between coping and actually living your life costs you
• The structural reason you can't think or affirm your way out of the identity loop that keeps you load-bearing and what actually moves it
• Permission to let your 11pm thought be data instead of something to manage, dismiss, or feel guilty about

What to listen to next

If this episode named where you are, you can dive deep into it with this diagnostic and training on what it actually takes to move.

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