I have to admit it was hard to title this interview with Mary McGreevy, creator and host of Tips From Dead People, because we covered everything from the act of writing an obit to the depth and weight of thinking through what you want to leave in this world long after you are gone as your signature of self.

Mary started reading obituaries decades ago for fun, and when she started to read them on Tik Tok and Instagram, hundreds of thousands of followers agreed with her belief - reading about the lives of people after they are gone is fascinating, deep, sad and hysterical.

As our talk unfolds, the alignment with delicious life is clear, - you are rarely remembered for your bank account or the awards on your mantle. It's the fact that you wore two different colored socks, or you always gave chocolates to the post man at holiday time.

As women, we struggle to give ourselves permission, and yet, Mary reads obits about women who have lived wild and unapologetic lives (many involve running from the law, but that is another story!) We think if we do anything out of the box, we are going to be slighted or disliked, but when you realize one day you are going to be dead, and all you have left is your story, you may want to reconsider what you give bandwidth to in your life.

What Mary has given us in her public reading of people's obituaries is that our lives are not what we have achieved by the length of our resume or our professional status, but rather our humanity and how we have interacted with and touched others. What has been our unique impact on those we get the privilege to know and love in this lifetime.

Mary highlights the layered and textured aspects of humanity by reading these obituaries which we forget is what connects us all.

I am intrigued to go and make a list of all the quirky stuff I know about myself, and even ask my partner to do it as well. Or you can ask your adult children to do it. It's not dark. We are all going to pass at some point, and in the process of living life, we can think about what mark we want to leave behind in a spiritual way once our body is no longer here.

Mary gives tips on how to write your own obit and she is currently working on her book!

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