You say nobody shows up for you. But are you letting anyone know you need them to? If asking for help feels impossible, if you go quiet in your hardest moments and only share once you're back on solid ground, this one is for you. Psychologist Dr. Nina Polyné unpacks hyper-independence as a trauma response, and why letting yourself be supported is one of the most radical acts of self-love.

In this episode:

• Two truths at once: some people in your life genuinely aren't showing up, and you may not be letting anyone in
• The strong friend who goes silent: why we hide what we're going through until it becomes a footnote six weeks later
• Dr. Nina's groceries story: what happened when she named an actual need to a friendly acquaintance, and the vulnerability of asking for something specific
• Why hyper-independence is not a character strength; it's a trauma response your nervous system learned to keep you safe
• The biology of receiving: how accepting support regulates your nervous system and buffers stress
• How to build a tolerance for receiving with small, slightly uncomfortable steps (not terrifying ones)

“Receiving is not weakness. It is not burden. It is part of what it means to be human.”

Sit with these after you listen:

• Is there something you're going through right now that nobody knows about? What's keeping it there?
• Think of someone who would want to show up for you. Have you given them the chance?
• Are you protecting yourself, or closing yourself off from something you actually want?
• What is one small thing you could let someone do for you this week?

Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné:

All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia

Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast (https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/)

Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne (https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/)

Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a

Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡

Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg (https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/)

Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/

Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically.

The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.