Dear WDMP Community,

What an incredible journey it’s been. We feel so lucky to have been in connection with you over the years as we’ve explored your burning Why Does My Partner… questions. With over 100 episodes across 7 seasons, this podcast has been a labor of love—and we could not have done it without your thoughtful engagement, deep curiosity, and ongoing support.

It’s with heavy hearts (and full ones) that we’ve decided to end production of the podcast. This decision wasn’t easy, and the reasons vary for each of us. Like many of you, we’re noticing the weight of the world, and our capacity is more limited than in the past. At the same time, we’re each growing in new directions, creating other kinds of learning and growth experiences for both therapists and laypeople alike. And because Why Does My Partner… has always thrived on the collective presence of all three of us, we agreed that if we can’t all say a wholehearted “yes” to continuing, it’s time to lovingly close this chapter.

We’re incredibly proud of the show we created, and we're so grateful for the richness it’s brought to our lives. To ensure it remains a resource for you, all of our episodes will stay available on your favorite podcast platforms for years to come. Keep listening. Keep sharing. Let these conversations continue to spark insights and connection in your lives.

In our final episode, we offer some parting thoughts on how you can keep nurturing healthy relationships in your own world. Thank you for being with us—through every question, every laugh, every moment of truth. It’s been our joy and honor.

As our paths continue to unfold, we’d love to stay connected. If you’re curious about where each of us is headed next, come along by joining our individual mailing lists:

• Jules: https://www.julianetaylorshore.com/the-newsletter
• Vickey: https://unmessyourmind.com/#NEWSLETTER
• Rebecca: https://connectfulness.com/newsletter

With respect, wonder, kindness, and courage,

Rebecca, Jules, & Vickey

As we reach the end of our season 7 deep dive into communication, it’s no surprise that so many of the same themes have kept showing up in our conversations, and that so often, what they’re about is owning our unmet needs. So it feels right that we should land here, with an episode that unpacks just that, and once again invites us to let go of the strategies we think we need to get what we want, and to get more in touch with the real needs we may be trying to express.

Thanks as always, dear listeners, for sticking with us for yet another season! We’ll be back soon with another miniseries, but in the meantime, we’d love for you to stay in touch! Write in, send us your questions, leave a review, and join us for a workshop!

And as always, love each other the best you can.

Quotes:

when we only have one way to meet a need, that is a recipe for fear

My needs are okay, even though they will not always be met.

“The pain sucks, but the fact that the pain is here is okay. It can be welcomed.”

Jules’ book is out now! Get Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered wherever books are sold.

Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact

Dive in deeper with us at our upcoming workshops.

Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

How is it that two people could remember an event so differently, and both be so sure that their version is right? Why is it so hard to take in when someone suggests that our memory of something isn’t true? How can it be that two people can both be right about a memory, and at the same time both be wrong? On today’s episode of WDMP, we’ve got a few answers for you, plus a suggestion for how you can start to guide yourself out of this stuck place and into greater intimacy in your relationship.

Quotes:

“The truth is, no one is actually totally right, and everyone is probably a little bit right.”

“Embrace the nature of the differences in the way we see reality. To try to get that not to happen…is a recipe for pain.”

“We can’t rely on memory as fact.”

Jules’ book is out now! Get Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered wherever books are sold.

Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact

Dive in deeper with us at our upcoming workshops.

Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events