Shadow work around numbing, not caring, and giving zero f*cks explores the self-protective side of emotional shutdown — and how to gently reawaken the parts of us that care an awful lot.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph unpack how avoidance, denial, and numbness often began as brilliant childhood survival strategies. Georgianna shares a deeply moving story about her son’s “I don’t care” — and how meeting his shutdown with compassion revealed a tender sensitivity beneath the surface. Steph reflects on her own years of “not caring” and how that numbness was actually proof of how deeply she cared, without tools to manage the feelings that come with caring.

Together, they explore how to create inner spaciousness without shutting down, and how to reclaim the part of us that still longs for connection, safety, and care — for ourselves and others.

Discover how:

• “I don’t care” can signal care that’s gone underground

• Spaciousness builds capacity for love, not distance from it

• Feeling is the bridge back to passion and aliveness

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.

"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

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Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

With love,

Georgianna & Steph

Shadow work around truth-telling digs into our communication blocks in relationship — and in this context, explores why speaking the obvious truths — the ones we assume people already know — can profoundly shift relationships.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph unpack why saying things out loud matters for safety, love, and connection. Georgianna shares how she teaches parents to “bridge the discipline” by reminding kids they’re loved even during conflict, and how those same principles repair adult relationships. Steph reflects on how noticing beauty, grief, and mixed emotions in her surroundings helped her reframe what truth feels like in the body — simple, honest, and regulating.

Together, they explore why so many of us hesitate to express the obvious (“you matter,” “we’re still good,” “I care”) and how this hesitation roots in childhood fear of vulnerability. They show how practicing with objects, photos, or pets builds the muscle to say what’s true — and how those small moments change everything.

Discover how:

• Saying the obvious can calm the nervous system

• Words like “you matter” repair disconnection instantly

• Speaking care out loud turns love into felt safety

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.

"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

LIVE training & practice programs:
wholeheartedloving.com

Get our self-compassionate body-based toolkit

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10am PT.

With love,

Georgianna & Steph

Shadow work around performing for connection explores how the roles we learned to play as children — to stay safe, liked, or needed — become the performances we carry into adult relationships.

In this episode of Wholehearted Loving, Georgianna and Steph talk about Conscious Relationship Training, and how it helped them unpack their own performing for connection. Steph shares how comfort in discomfort became her norm, and how she learned to stop creating pain as a form of control. Georgianna opens up about how “being nice” was really about avoiding her own discomfort when others felt bad — and how shadow work helped her find real freedom.

Together, they explore what authenticity actually feels like in the body, how to track “just-right” sensations before things tip into overwhelm, and why performing kindness is never the same as living it.

Discover how:

• Performances for love and safety begin as clever coping and can end as chronic disconnection

• Awareness of your body’s subtle cues can prevent emotional over-stretching

• Real compassion includes yourself — not just everyone else

"Like finding gold." – Alma W.

"The best therapy I've ever done for myself." – Sanjeev B.

LIVE training & practice programs:
wholeheartedloving.com

Get our self-compassionate body-based toolkit

Every episode begins and ends with a body-based self-connection practice, so you can grow your capacity to be with all that life brings. We also include self-reflection and journaling prompts each week, posted on our Instagram @wholeheartedloving. New episodes every Sunday at 10 am PT.

With love,

Georgianna & Steph