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In this episode, I get honest about the rules we’re all living by — the ones nobody ever said out loud, that we never agreed to, that somehow still run our whole lives.

I take you into my closet (the skirt-and-makeup rule I obeyed for thirty years without knowing it), into a bathroom in Houston where my dad re-caulked my tub before our move (and the completely wrong story my brain wrote about it), and into a practice I’m a little too excited about: writing your own personal commandments.

If you’ve ever paused and thought wait — where did that rule even come from? — this one’s for you. We're taking back the pen.

In this episode:

• Why the rules we never questioned (some written when we were five) quietly steer our whole adult lives

• “Good girl ghosting in rulebook form” — the slow self-betrayal of obeying a code you never wrote

• The two-part question that cracks a rule open: Who told me that? and Is this Jesus or judgment?

• The Rule Breaker List — a 3-move practice you can do on the back of a receipt

• A handful of my own personal commandments (own my magic, run toward the roar, everything is information, act with integrity)

• The bathtub-caulk story: how my storyteller wrote the wrong script about my dad — and how I got to rewrite it on the spot

• Your pinkie-toe step and this week’s permission slips

A few lines worth remembering:

• “A rule that you never said out loud can still run your whole life. So name it and write a better one.”

• “Same caulk, same muttering, completely different story. Only one of them was true.”

• “You’re allowed to ask, who told me that?”

• “I get to be soft and bright and feminine because I’m alive, not because I earned it.”

• "Your story isn’t prophecy unless you keep living it.”

Resources:

- Free Play: REBEL JOY Card Deck — Romanticize your life and reclaim your light — one tiny rebellion at a time. Seven print-and-keep cards, each with one brave, joyful prompt. Pick a card, set a 60-second timer, and play. Start Playing Again! https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/72c327f4a4

- For the exact scripts for the next time you go blank or catch yourself saying an automatic yes, grab the Rebel Response Mini Kit here: https://rachelharrisonline.com/product-details/product/the-rebel-response-mini-kit

- FREE: Are YOU a Good Girl Ghost? Free Guide: 5 Moments You're Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It) https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/e6b737ec08

- Work with me on the Good Girl Ghost Reset — a single Rebel Hour, or the full Reset Mentorship: https://rachelharrisonline.com/work-with-me

My Substack Page, Goodbye, Good Girl: https://joyfulrebel.substack.com/

Are YOU A Joyful Rebel? https://rachelharrisonline.com/joyful-rebel