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Season 2, Episode 3

What does it look like to love someone through addiction—without losing yourself? My dear friend Tina Hamby shares the messy middle of her marriage: the years her husband Adam was drinking, the boundaries that kept her safe, the moment everything changed, and the daily practices that keep their extraordinary family grounded now. We talk faith, community, parenting through guilt, and why “nothing changes if nothing changes.”

Listen for:
• The difference between fixing and loving
• Boundaries that protect you (and your relationship)
• Finding your recovery “thing” ( prayer, movement, community, AA)
• Talking with kids—and letting hope grow at home

00:00 Cold open: “It’s okay not to be okay…”
01:20 Meet Tina & why this conversation matters
03:30 The love story (and the first red flags)
05:55 “Unpredictable weather”: what living with addiction felt like
08:40 Trying to lead by example—and why it backfired
12:10 Triggers, safety, and setting real boundaries
17:20 The turning point: prayer, “Chainbreaker,” and choosing life
20:30 Early sobriety at home: money, peace, presence
24:00 Parenting through guilt; making room for both gratitude and ache
28:10 What she’d do differently; therapy for the partner
31:00 “Find your thing”: AA, faith, movement, community (Kava)
35:15 The boundary that held: love and consequences
40:10 From storm to rainbow: family now
44:10 Tina’s message to partners who want to stay
45:30 Hope, defined

Special Guest: Tina Marie Hamby — IG/FB: @TinaHambyMUA (hair/makeup & wedding officiant)

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