Most men are walking around with a totally wrong idea of what women actually want. Height, money, abs. Turns out the bar is somewhere else entirely. The rules have quietly shifted in a way a lot of guys haven't caught up to yet.

This week we sit down with Dr. Sarah Oreck, a psychiatrist who treats mostly women and has a front row seat to what they're actually dealing with in dating, relationships, and life. We get into why "boyfriends are embarrassing" right now, what safety actually means to a woman, the type you swear is yours until you meet someone who isn't, and why doing the work on yourself beats finding someone to fill the hole.

We also talk about the incel pipeline, what's broken about how guys connect with each other, and the one thing Sarah thinks would change more men's lives than any app, hack, or supplement.

If you've ever felt like the dating world is rigged against you, or quietly suspected you might be getting in your own way, this one's for you. Sarah's the kind of voice you want in your corner.

0:00 — Sarah's honest take on men today

2:24 — The masculinity problem right now

6:17 — Are you confident or arrogant?

7:21 — Being strong and vulnerable at once

17:25 — Porn vs. intimacy explained

19:13 — What "feeling safe" really means

20:24 — Are boyfriends embarrassing right now?

24:43 — What if "your type" is wrong?

29:41 — Stop looking for your other half

33:49 — How to be vulnerable with friends

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