Are you stuck in the mindset of "That's just the way I am"?

In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack why so many Christian husbands and wives stay trapped in childhood pain and emotional habits—and how to let God transform them.

💬 Learn how to:

Recognize when you're letting pain define your identity

Break free from cycles of blame and emotional immaturity

Invite God into your healing so you can grow and thrive in your marriage

Take responsibility for your mindset and respond differently in conflict

🎧 Free Resources:

👉 Download Five Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells and take our Marriage Assessment at greaterimpactwives.org

Change. Conflict. Courage. Three words every marriage faces—yet few couples know how to navigate them well.

In today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove dig deep into how courageous conversations can transform your marriage.

They unpack:

💬 Why "change" often leads to chaos and conflict

💬 How to talk about hard issues without blame or accusation

💬 The difference between being assertive vs aggressive

💬 Why logic—not emotion—solves problems

💬 How to stay open-minded, manage emotions, and build trust again

If you've ever thought, "I don't do conflict," this conversation will lovingly challenge that belief—and show you that healthy confrontation is actually the gateway to deeper intimacy and lasting change.

✨ Watch now to learn how courage, humility, and truth can heal your marriage from the inside out.

Welcome to What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast that helps Christian couples communicate better, resolve conflict, and build a thriving marriage rooted in faith.

In today's episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner talk about how accountability can heal your marriage — and how truth, grace, and humility can strengthen your relationship with your spouse and with God.

💡 Take the next step in your marriage:

👉 Download our FREE PDF: Five Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells

👉 Take your Free Marriage Assessment at greaterimpactwives.org

If you've been struggling with communication, trust, or emotional distance in your marriage, this episode will help you see how godly accountability leads to peace, healing, and deeper connection.

💖 Subscribe for more episodes on Christian marriage help, communication tips, and biblical wisdom for couples.

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Today, we're talking about change — not the kind you keep in a jar, but the kind that shakes up your life and relationships. Change is constant, and whether it's good or bad, it always brings some level of chaos and conflict.

💡 In this episode, you'll discover:

✅ Why change (even positive change) often leads to chaos

✅ How conflict can actually bring growth — if handled well

✅ The importance of courageous conversations in healthy relationships

✅ What the Bible says about confronting one another with love

✅ Why avoiding conflict keeps you stuck in unhealthy patterns

If you're struggling with change in your marriage or relationships, this episode will help you face it with courage and faith.

🌐 Visit greaterimpact.org

to:

Take the Marriage Self-Assessment

Learn more about the Marriage Transformation Program

Discover practical ways to fix what's broken in your relationship

💬 Need help working through fear or conflict?

Reach out to Kyle Hargrove, LPC — email: kylehargrovelpc@gmail.com

(Texas-based counseling)

Don't forget to subscribe, like, and share this video to help others handle change with wisdom and grace.

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In this powerful episode, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner sit down with Sarah Karlich, a Licensed Professional Counselor, to explore how her personal and professional journey through trauma, emotional dysregulation, and the Greater Impact Marriage Intensive transformed her marriage and faith.

👩‍❤️‍👨 Sarah shares how:

Emotional regulation changed how she communicated with her husband

Childhood trauma shaped her reactions and belief systems

God used surrender, truth, and community to restore her heart

Her marriage went from disconnected to deeply healing and connected

🎯 Key Takeaways:

Why blame is the enemy's language—and how to break the cycle

How healing starts with you, not your spouse

What emotional safety looks like in real marriage transformation

The difference between managing behavior and true spiritual change

📥 Get your FREE resources:

💡 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells

📝 Free Marriage Assessment

💬 Whether you're feeling stuck, frustrated, or alone in your marriage—this episode will give you hope and practical wisdom rooted in God's Word.

🔔 Don't forget to subscribe, like, and share this episode with someone who needs encouragement and truth today!

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Are you feeling anxious, avoidant, or just out of your comfort zone in your marriage? You're not alone. In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Shai Lewis and Nina Roesner dive into what happens when your attachment style gets stretched — and how to choose growth over fear.

Discover practical, biblical tools to build a secure connection, communicate with confidence, and repair conflict in healthy ways. Learn how to love with maturity, even when it's hard.

💬 Question of the Day: How do you deal with a spouse who struggles with jealousy over your past?

🎁 Grab your FREE PDF: 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells at greaterimpactwives.org

Are you fighting with your spouse instead of for your marriage?

In today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and guest Kyle Hargrove unpack how the enemy creeps into Christian marriages — not just through conflict, but in how we speak, how we listen, and how we forget who the real enemy is.

💔 Whether you're in a tough season or just want deeper connection, this episode will help you recognize the spiritual dynamics at play and give you tools to fight with your spouse — not against them.

👇 Resources:

🔗 Marriage Assessment: https://greaterimpact.org

📧 Contact Kyle: kylehargraveLPC@gmail.com

Are you stuck in a cycle of unforgiveness or resentment? 😔 You're not alone — but the consequences are deeper than you think.

In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and Shy Lewis dive into the neuroscience of bitterness, exposing how unforgiveness rewires your brain, damages your communication, and even impacts your health, memory, and spiritual life.

💔 If you've ever:

Replayed past hurts over and over

Felt emotionally drained just thinking of "that person"

Struggled with anxiety, sleeplessness, or depression due to unresolved pain

...this episode is for you.

You'll learn:

🧠 What happens in the brain when you're bitter or resentful

🙏 Why forgiveness isn't just biblical — it's biologically necessary

❤️ How choosing to forgive can literally change your brain chemistry

💡 How to take back emotional control and walk in peace, joy, and clarity

🎁 Free Resources:

👉 Download our 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells PDF

👉 Take the free Marriage Assessment

🔗 Visit us at GreaterImpact.org

📌 Question of the Day:

What do you do when your spouse won't own their mistakes and denies past harm? We give heartfelt advice for how to move forward in this tough situation.

👀 Watch next:

🔹 How Your Nervous System Affects Your Marriage

🔹 The Power of Emotional Regulation in Conflict

🔹 Steps to Heal After Betrayal