What if the midlife reinvention you keep postponing isn't waiting for more data or a better plan, it's waiting for you to trust your gut again? For many professionals like you, career reinvention feels too big to trust your intuition and instead let the big decisions be made by spreadsheets, pros-and-cons lists, and taking the safe route of certainty.

Sylvia Taylor calls that inner signal "the sparkle." As an "adapt-ologist" who has navigated career changes across marketing, organizational development, and agile leadership, Sylvia discovered early that her most significant career pivots were never purely logical. They were intuitive. She followed what lit her up, even when the path made no sense on paper.

In this conversation, you will learn:
➡️ How to answer "Who am I beyond my job title?" without spiraling
➡️ Why your gut may be more trustworthy than your brain when considering a career reinvention
➡️ The difference between hope as a feeling and hope as a daily practice
➡️ Why hope is an amplifier for adaptability and resilience

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In this conversation, Sylvia introduces the Adaptive Identity Game, a play-based tool she designed to answer the question that surfaces during every midlife reinvention: "If I'm not my job title, who am I?" The answer, she insists, isn't found by updating your LinkedIn profile. It's uncovered by reconnecting with the skills, traits, and metaphors that have been quietly shaping your work all along.

Sylvia shares the tool she created, the Adaptive Identity Game, a play-based tool she designed to answer the question that surfaces during every midlife reinvention: "If I'm not my job title, who am I?" The answer, she insists, isn't found by updating your LinkedIn profile. It's uncovered by reconnecting with the skills, traits, and metaphors that have been quietly shaping your work all along.

In this episode, Sylvia answers the following questions:
➡️ What does reinvent your career mean?
➡️ How can I follow my intuition?
➡️ How accurate are gut feelings?
➡️ How to be more adaptable?

My favorite quote from the episode:
"Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer." -Rainer Maria Rilke, from "Letters to a Young Poet"

Resources mentioned in the episode:
➡️ Sylvia's Adaptive Identity Game

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.

What Do You Know To Be True?" is an invitation to be inspired to become more of your possible self by discovering your superpower, unlocking your potential, and creating your impact in the world.

This podcast is for leaders, coaches, org development practitioners, and anyone who works with people who want to be inspired to discover their superpower, unlock their possibilities, and make meaningful impact in the world.

For more info, check out the channel: What Do You Know To Be True?

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

#Midlifereinvention #CareerReinvention #TrustYourIntuition #Adaptability #Hope #PersonalGrowth #leadershipdevelopment #CareerChange

In this episode, psychotherapist, author, and TEDx speaker, Kerry-Lyn Stanton-Downes, returns to be relational and answer real questions about applying relational capacity to difficult conversations, provide respectful candor in ways that heals not harms, and create emotional co-regulation in the moments that matter most.

In the original conversation, Kerry-Lyn shared the 8 principles of relational capacity and offered to come back to answer audience-provided questions. This is that episode!

Four audience members sent in specific questions and Kerry-Lyn’s responses went deeper than theory. The questions:
➡️ How can leaders use relational capacity to improve emotional co-regulation?
➡️ How do you address someone's dysregulation with compassion?
➡️ How do other cultures develop relational capacity that we can learn from?
➡️ Is the choice between being right and staying in relationship actually a false one?
Thank you, Mark Meadows, Wynne Leon, and April McCormick for the questions!

Her answer to the last question revealed something I didn't expect.

Kerry-Lyn identifies the early warning signal we all recognize but rarely name: the moment "but, but, but" enters your internal dialogue, you've left relational curiosity behind.

The fix isn't trying harder to convince the other person. It's admitting your own defensiveness out loud, what she calls respectful candor. That single move to vulnerability disarms the entire dynamic and invites both people back to what they're really in service of.

Throughout this conversation, from ubuntu and whakapapa, from leader vulnerability to emotional co-regulation, you'll hear her eight principles of relational capacity surface naturally; not because she's reciting a model, but because she's so deeply embedded in the work that it's become how she sees.

If you've ever walked away from a difficult conversation wondering if you could have held your ground and held the relationship, this episode was made for you.

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Resources mentioned in the episode:
➡️ Kerry-Lyn’s Company: https://www.berelational.co.uk/
➡️ Kerry-Lyn’s LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kerry-lyn-stanton-downes
➡️ Kerry-Lyn’s Substack: https://berelationalnow.substack.com/

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.

What Do You Know To Be True?" is an invitation to be inspired to become more of your possible self by discovering your superpower, unlocking your potential, and creating your impact in the world.

This podcast is for leaders, coaches, org development practitioners, and anyone who works with people who want to be inspired to discover their superpower, unlock their possibilities, and make meaningful impact in the world.

Want more info about What Do You Know To Be True?
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"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

Keywords
#difficultconversations #relationalcapacity #respectfulcandor #emotionalregulation #vulnerabilityleadership #coregulation

Most leaders know when something is off with their team but they steer clear of the difficult conversation. They sense the tension and the confusion, but they lack the courageous leadership and emotional intelligence to say the thing that everyone wants to hear. building. And the team and results suffer.

Retired U.S. Air Force Colonel DeDe Halfhill says that silence is the single most expensive habit in leadership today, and it's costing leaders the very thing they're working hardest to build.

In this conversation, Roger Kastner sits down with DeDe Halfhill, retired US Air Force Colonel, former advisor to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff and now a Leadership Advisor and Speaker, to explore why difficult conversations are not a soft skill, but a high-performance discipline.

From Iraq to the boardrooms of corporate America, DeDe's message is the same: the leaders who build the strongest teams are the ones willing to say the thing nobody else will say.

In this episode you'll discover:
➡️ Why the leaders who "do hard things" are often the ones most afraid to have the hard conversation
➡️ How acknowledging the emotional reality of your team builds more trust than any strategy session
➡️ The moment DeDe realized in Iraq that speaking the truth of a shared experience changes everything
➡️ How psychological safety and difficult conversations are two sides of the same leadership coin

Colonel DeDe Halfhill retired from the U.S. Air Force after 25 years of service, including a deployment to Iraq and an advisory role to the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff. She now works with organizations and leaders to develop the emotional intelligence and courageous leadership skills that drive real team performance because she's seen firsthand what happens when leaders choose courage over comfort, and what it costs when they don't.

If you've ever sensed something was wrong with your team but stayed quiet to avoid the discomfort this conversation is the permission slip you didn't know you needed.

The difficult conversation isn't the risk. Avoiding it is.

Resources mentioned in the episode:
➡️DeDe’s Website
➡️DeDe’s LinkedIn

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is an invitation to be inspired to become more of your possible self by discovering your superpower, unlocking your potential, and creating your impact in the world.

This podcast is for leaders, coaches, org development practitioners, and anyone who works with people who want to be inspired to discover their superpower, unlock their possibilities, and make meaningful impact in the world.

Want more info about What Do You Know To Be True?
➡️ Check out What Do You Know To Be True?
➡️ Subscribe to the What Do You Know To Be True? newsletter to get insights into each conversation.

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

Keywords
#difficultconversations #courageousleadership #emotionalintelligence #psychologicalsafety #leadershipdevelopment