Episode Summary

We're asking one question to as many men as we can: What is the main problem men are facing in society based on your experience?

Season three opens with a conversation that's been building since the very first episode. Rachael, mom of two teenage boys and host of We Take the Stairs, sits down with Jackson and guest Kenny — a man of faith, combat sports enthusiast, and someone who has made it his mission to do life with other men — to ask the question she's been circling for years: Why are men walking away? And what do we do about it?

What unfolds is one of the most honest, wide-ranging conversations this show has ever had. Fatherlessness. Passivity. Identity confusion. The school system failing boys. The church failing men. Gangs as counterfeit brotherhood. And what it actually looks like to channel masculine energy toward something good. This isn't theory. These are men who've lived it.

Guest Kenny — Man of faith, jiu-jitsu practitioner, and community builder based in South Florida. Kenny leads beach workouts that bring men together to do hard things, pursue Christ, and find the brotherhood that culture has failed to provide them.

Key Topics Covered

• Why Men Keep Quitting — Kenny traces the roots of male passivity back to boyhood: participation trophies, lack of grit, absent fathers, and a generation of boys who were never told they have what it takes to finish what they started.
• Fatherlessness and the Question Every Boy Asks — When a father leaves, the wound isn't just practical. It's identity. Was I not enough? Was it my fault? Kenny speaks to how only one relationship can truly heal that — and it's not with an earthly father.
• Identity Crisis in Modern Men — From social media to Hollywood's lone wolf myth, men are being told their value comes from what they do, how much they earn, or how many women they attract. Kenny dismantles that lie: your identity comes from who God says you are, not your performance.
• The Bullying Conversation Nobody Wants to Have — A raw and honest discussion about what boys actually need when they're being bullied — and why a mother's instinct, however loving, can't give a son what a father's voice can. You don't want the bully to be afraid of the teacher. You want the bully to be afraid of the boy.
• Gangs, Military, and the Counterfeit Brotherhood — Every man craves belonging, mission, and brotherhood. Kenny explains why gangs and harmful groups fill that void when nothing better is offered — and what a genuine alternative looks like.
• The Church Isn't Built for Men — Kenny and Jackson name something most people won't say out loud: most American churches are set up for women. Comfortable chairs, cappuccinos, and feelings check-ins aren't going to get men through the door — or keep them there.
• Meekness Is Not Weakness — One of the most powerful moments of the episode. Kenny breaks down the Greek military origin of the word meek — a wild horse trained to be a war horse, power under authority — and reframes what the Sermon on the Mount is actually calling men to be.
• What a Men's Group Actually Looks Like — Beach workouts. Weighted vest carries. Hikes. Prayer. A word from scripture. And then — after men have done something hard together — the real conversations happen. Kenny and Jackson describe what community built for men actually requires.
• Boys in the Education System — Rachael brings her experience as a school parent: boys are being told to sit down, shut up, and conform. Testosterone surges, physical energy, and competitive instincts are being diagnosed and medicated instead of...

• (00:00:00) - — Welcome, Season 3 Opener & Opening Prayer
• (00:03:10) - — Rachael's Heart for Young Men & Why Men Keep Quitting
• (00:08:20) - — Kenny's Story: A Good Dad, and Still a Hole in the Heart
• (00:12:45) - — Fatherlessness: Was I Not Enough?
• (00:19:00) - — Rachael Gets Real: The Cost of Raising Sons Alone
• (00:25:10) - — Doing Hard Things Together: What Men Actually Need
• (00:31:35) - — The Lone Wolf Lie & The Double Standard
• (00:37:30) - — The Bullying Conversation: What Only a Father Can Give
• (00:43:00) - — Gangs, Military & the Counterfeit Brotherhood
• (00:48:20) - — Meekness Is Not Weakness: The Greek War Horse & Matthew 5
• (00:53:55) - — The Education System & The Church: Both Failing Boys
• (01:01:00) - — Closing Reflections & We Takes

Episode Summary

We're asking one question to as many men as we can: What is the main problem men are facing in society based on your experience?

In our first episode, hosts Jackson and Rachael sit down with Jeremy — South Florida filmmaker, entrepreneur, and man of faith — and his answer cuts straight to the bone: pride, procrastination, and lust. What follows is one of the most honest conversations you'll hear a man have on camera. This isn't a shame spiral. It's a roadmap.

Guest Jeremy — Filmmaker and owner of a production company serving luxury resorts and hotels, documentary storyteller, and founder of the nonprofit Rock Jar, inspired by the Israelites' practice of building stone altars to remember God's faithfulness. Currently engaged and living in South Florida. (@Seasidemedia on instagram )

Key Topics Covered

• Lust & Pornography Addiction — Jeremy opens up about how pride fed his struggle with lust and objectifying women, and how God transformed his perspective — learning to see women as the Father's daughters rather than objects for his own gratification.
• The Damage Porn Does in Relationships — Rachael shares her firsthand experience being in a relationship with someone deep in pornography addiction, describing the invisible but devastating toll it takes on a woman's sense of worth, attractiveness, and visibility. "You know when they look right through you. You're wallpaper."
• Women's Accountability in Modesty — A candid, balanced discussion about cultural norms around clothing, the tension between freedom and conviction, and the encouragement for women to seek the Holy Spirit's guidance rather than respond to external pressure.
• Why Discipline Alone Fails — Drawing from Colossians 2:20–23, Jackson challenges the idea that accountability systems and self-imposed rules can defeat deep-rooted sin. Willpower has an expiration date. The real answer is surrender, not strain.
• Passivity & Procrastination in Men — Jeremy reframes procrastination as passivity — a failure to show up, follow through, and lead. The parable of the talents and Proverbs' image of the ant are both referenced. Men were made to move.
• The Power of Male Community — All three speakers agree: isolation is a tool of the enemy. Men need other men — a pack, a mentor, a group with shared purpose. Not to confess failure in discouraging cycles, but to pursue Christ together with eyes forward.
• Morning Prayer as a Starting Point — A practical, low-barrier encouragement: five minutes in the morning, phone down, no music. Just "Hey God, I'm here. What do you want?" That's enough to begin.
• Biblical Submission Reframed — Jeremy closes with a clarification on the husband-as-head-of-household passage: both spouses submit toward each other and toward Christ — mutual, inward, love-driven. Not one person lording over another.

Scriptures Referenced

• 1 Corinthians 6 — Sexual sin as sin against your own body
• Colossians 2:20–23 — Disciplines have no power against the indulgence of flesh
• Matthew 6:33 — "Seek first the kingdom of God…"
• Proverbs 18:1 — He who isolates himself seeks his own desire
• Song of Solomon — The bridegroom and bride as a picture of Christ and the church
• The Parable of the Talents — Risk, passivity, and multiplying what you're given
• Psalm 46:10 — "Be still and know"

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Episode Description

What do you feel in the moment someone shoots you? For Pablo, it wasn't fear or rage — it was love and understanding. In this raw, unfiltered episode of Let's Break Bread, Rachel and Jackson sit down with Pablo, a young man whose life was shattered — and rebuilt — in ways he never could have planned.
Paralyzed from the chest down at 22 after being shot by someone he was trying to help, Pablo shares a journey that spans rebellion, estrangement, the cannabis industry, Colombia, psychosis, and an unexpected encounter with the Holy Spirit that changed everything.
Told through the lens of the Prodigal Son, this is a story about identity, purpose, forgiveness, grace — and why God sometimes doesn't meet you halfway. He comes all the way to you.

Timestamps

00:00 — Welcome & the Prodigal Son framework
02:04 — Pablo's story: Colombia, rebellion, and coming home
03:48 — Meeting a friend in need and the cannabis industry
05:30 — When helping someone becomes dangerous
07:00 — Shot nine times. Paralyzed from the chest down.
07:55 — What Pablo felt in that moment (you won't expect this)
09:46 — The phone call to his mom and what it meant
12:16 — Sleep deprivation, psychosis, and understanding the shooter
13:27 — Pablo's spiritual awakening four months ago
15:30 — Grace: from Windows 98 to AI
17:07 — Tony Robbins, a hospital bed, and the word "grace"
18:48 — Jackson explains the Baptism of the Holy Spirit
20:51 — The hospital, the fire department, and "Mom, this is big"
23:02 — Ephesians 3:16–19: the scripture that came at 3:30am
24:13 — Your gift of discernment: how to steward it
26:20 — Advice for mothers of prodigal sons
29:30 — What Pablo would say to young men today
31:42 — Fear vs. love: which is the better motivator for obedience?
34:11 — The small pebbles are harder than the boulders
37:09 — Identities Pablo had to release: money, status, body
41:21 — Jim Carrey, Solomon, and the void only God can fill
50:34 — What would you tell someone heading away from God?
51:42 — What's next for Pablo?
56:10 — Jeremiah 1 & a prophetic declaration over Pablo's life
59:05 — The Chosen, Little James, and Pablo's wheelchair as a superpower
01:03:30 — Mat carriers: who's lowering you through the roof?
01:05:09 — We Takes & closing words

Key Quotes

"The only thing I felt when he shot me was love and understanding. I knew it wasn't him." — Pablo

"Fear of God is not hell-avoidance. It's understanding that the worst possible thing is to be separated from Him." — Jackson

"Most of the prisons we live in exist in our own minds." — Rachel

"Fear nothing else but God. As long as that's at the center, you'll be okay." — Pablo

"Your hands, your work, your voice, your story — that is your worship." — Jackson

"Through suffering, we come to terms with the truth of who we truly are." — Rachel

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