Ever had one of those days where you swear you’ve been “go, go, go” — but when you finally crash on the couch at night, you’re left wondering: what did I even get done today? Yeah, me too. Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy, it’s because your to-do list is kind of a liar.

In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on why those long, never-ending lists leave you feeling exhausted but not accomplished. I’ll share the surprising way your brain treats “buy milk” and “land that career-changing opportunity” like they’re the same thing (wild, right?).

We’ll dig into a sneaky trap you probably don’t even realize you’re falling into — and I’ll ask the question that stopped me in my tracks: are you really making progress, or are you just staying busy?

Oh, and there’s one simple, practical shift you can try today that might just change the way you look at your list forever. (Hint: it fits on a sticky note.)

So if you’re tired of ending your day feeling like you worked your butt off but have nothing to show for it, this one’s for you. Hit play now — your future self will thank you.

You’ve made it to the final episode of the Permission to Disappoint series—and let’s be real, we saved the hardest part for last: actually saying the no.

This isn’t about knowing what your boundaries should be. This is about the moment someone asks you for something and your mouth says “Sure!” while your soul quietly packs a bag and tries to escape out the back door.

If you’ve ever:

• Agreed to something just to avoid the awkwardness of saying no

• Felt responsible for other people’s feelings

• Or replayed a conversation 47 times because you’re still second-guessing your “no”...

This episode will feel like a deep exhale.

Pamela’s walking you through the art of delivering a clear, unapologetic no—without spiraling into guilt, overexplaining, or people-pleasing gymnastics. She also breaks down the four most common boundary-pushers (yes, there are types!) and how to handle each one with calm confidence.

✨ Plus, she shares a mindset shift that might just change how you view your relationships forever.

Oh—and if you're wondering what to actually say when you're put on the spot?

That’s where the Boundary Setting Toolkit comes in.
Inside, you’ll find:

• 10 plug-and-play scripts for tricky boundary convos

• A 3-step reset plan for when you slip up

• Quick phrases to buy time (because “I panicked and said yes” is a real thing)

• Text + email templates when you want to say no without a face-to-face showdown

You can grab it for just $27 👉🏻right here in the show notes or through Pamela’s Instagram @pamelahughescoaching (check the link in her bio).

So here’s your invitation:What would your life look like if you stopped abandoning yourself just to keep others comfortable?

Let’s find out.
🎧 Hit play on this episode—and let Pamela show you how to make your “no” powerful, peaceful, and totally guilt-free.

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About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it, and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.