In Part 2 of our orgasm series, Dr. Rebecca and Dr. Alex move beyond pelvic floor mechanics to explore the psychology of orgasm. You'll learn why your brain matters as much as physical technique, how “shame loops” hijack arousal, and why fantasy is a tool (not cheating). We tackle intrusive thoughts that kill the mood (like "my stomach looks weird in this position") and give you practical tools to communicate your desires without the awkwardness. This episode is your guide to getting out of your head and back into your body, so you can stop "should-ing" all over your sex life and start enjoying it again.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why saying "I can’t stop thinking about the laundry" out loud actually helps your brain switch back to sex mode.
• How to use fantasy to get out of your head and into your body and why that’s ok.
• How to tell your partner exactly what you need.
• Why solo play is the first step to amazing partnered sex!

Tune in if you’ve ever thought:

• "Why can I orgasm alone, but not with my partner?"
• "Why does my mind wander during sex?"
• "Am I cheating if I fantasize about someone else?"
• "How do I tell them what I want without making it awkward?"

Resources

• The Postpartum Essentials Virtual course
• Sex After Baby Mini-Course
• Find a pelvic floor PT near you: pelvicrehab.com or Pelvic Global Directory
• Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids by Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy

Connect with us:

Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy

• Website: https://www.rebeccaeudy.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccahowardeudy/
• Newsletter: https://substack.com/@parentsinlove

Dr. Alexandra DiGrado

• Website: https://www.bostonpelvicpt.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bostonpelvicpt/
• Newsletter: https://bostonpelvicpt.myflodesk.com/underthehood

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• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/underthehooddocs/
• Website: http://www.underthehoodpod.com

Most people (including medical providers) aren’t taught how orgasms actually “work.” In this first half of a two-part series, Dr. Alex DiGrado (pelvic floor PT) and Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy (sex therapist) unpack common misconceptions about orgasms and explore what’s going on in the body and brain. From breath and muscle coordination to nervous system regulation, they cover the physical and emotional patterns that can shape pleasure - and why these issues are often overlooked in medical care. Whether you’re confused, curious, or just want to understand your body better, this episode is a great place to start.

What you'll learn:

• Orgasm is a full-body reflex, involving your pelvic floor, breath, diaphragm, and nervous system (aka it’s not a simple on/off switch).
• Orgasms require both relaxation and excitation at the right times (and how PFPT can help with that).
• You can orgasm without ejaculation.
• Most pelvic floor PTs aren't trained in orgasm function in school.

Tune in if you’ve ever thought:

• “I’m not sure if I’ve ever had an orgasm.”
• “Why does it take me forever to finish (or not at all)?”
• “How can I feel more relaxed in my body during sex?”
• “How can pelvic floor PT help with orgasm issues?”

Helpful resources:

• Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
• Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
• Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters - And How to Get It by Laurie Mintz
• Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids by Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy
• Sex After Baby Mini-Course
• Find a pelvic floor PT near you: Pelvic Rehab Directory or Pelvic Global Directory

Connect with Us:

Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy
Website: rebeccaeudy.com
Instagram: @rebeccahowardeudy
Newsletter: Parents in Love Substack

Dr. Alexandra DiGrado
Website: bostonpelvicpt.com
Instagram: @bostonpelvicpt
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Resentment doesn’t come out of nowhere - it’s usually a sign that something important hasn’t been said or repaired. In this episode, Dr. Rebecca (sex & couples therapist) and Dr. Alex (pelvic floor PT) talk about how resentment shows up in everyday relationships, even between people who are trying their best but are operating from completely different playbooks. They unpack why many of us take on too much, assume our partner should “just know” what we’re thinking, and then feel hurt when that doesn’t happen. This conversation is about noticing what's going on under the surface (because it's never just about the dishes), taking responsibility for what you can control, and asking for what you need in a way that actually brings you closer.

What You’ll Learn:

• When “letting things go” is actually avoidance, and when to speak up instead.
• Why over-functioning is often a choice that feels easier in the moment but backfires later on.
• How to ask for what you want without nagging or accusing.
• How to stop “shitting on the gift” when your partner tries to help.

Tune in if you’ve ever thought:

• “Why am I the only one who takes care of things around here?”
• “I know deep down my partner cares… so why doesn’t it feel like it?”
• “If I have to ask him to do it, it doesn't count.”
• "I should be happy my partner is taking care of himself, but I’m just annoyed instead.”

Resources:

• Find a pelvic floor PT near you: pelvicrehab.com or Pelvic Global Directory
• Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids by Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy

Connect with us:

Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy

• Website: https://www.rebeccaeudy.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccahowardeudy/
• Newsletter: https://substack.com/@parentsinlove

Dr. Alexandra DiGrado

• Website: https://www.bostonpelvicpt.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bostonpelvicpt/
• Newsletter: https://bostonpelvicpt.myflodesk.com/underthehood

Under the Hood Podcast

• Website: http://www.underthehoodpod.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/underthehooddocs/