Nobody's going to give you permission to start over. Here's why—and how to give it to yourself anyway.

In this episode:

- Why your brain is wired to seek approval before making big changes

- The neuroscience of "permission psychology"

- Why the people who love you will resist your reinvention (and it's not personal)

- How to self-authorize without waiting for consensus

- The exact permission slip exercise that changed everything for me

Resources:

🎙️ Sunday Morning Ritual: https://www.elevatedliving.co/sundaymorningclub

💬 Join the Inner Circle: https://www.toolatemyass.com/rebellionroom

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Most people think reinvention takes years. It takes 10 seconds. Here's the neuroscience.

In this episode, we're breaking down:

- How your brain creates identity through pattern interruption

- Why clarity comes AFTER action (not before)

- The exact 10-second moment that changed my life

- The brain hack you can use this week to rewire your identity

Resources:

🎙️ Sunday Morning Ritual: https://sundaymornings.club/

💬 Join the Inner Circle: https://www.toolatemyass.com/rebellionroom

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Too Late, My Ass™ is the podcast for second-act reinvention. Hosted by Fay Chapple.

If you’re still waiting to be chosen, invited, validated, or tapped on the shoulder — this episode is for you.

Not because you’re insecure.

Not because you lack confidence.

But because at some point, waiting became a habit your nervous system learned was “safe.”

In this episode, we dismantle the myth that visibility comes after readiness — and explain why, in midlife, waiting quietly erases authority.

You’ll learn:

-Why the brain treats hesitation as a signal that your future is optional

-How identity and nervous system safety determine who gets seen — and who gets overlooked

-The difference between humility and self-editing

-Why clarity, not confidence, is the real authority signal

-How to stop auditioning and start occupying space without becoming aggressive or performative

This is not about being louder.

It’s about being clearer.

Midlife isn’t when you prove yourself.

It’s when you stop outsourcing permission.

If something in you knows you’re done waiting — press play.

Join us in The Rebellion Room if you done waiting.

https://www.toolatemyass.com/rebellionroom

It’s not a midlife crisis. It’s a software update. Who Are You When You Stop Pretending?If you are exhausted, it isn’t because you’re old. It’s because you have spent the last decade performing a character that doesn't fit you anymore. You are wearing "corporate armor" over your actual skin, and you are suffocating. It's time to retire the version of you that kept everyone else comfortable.In this episode, we dismantle the "Good Girl/Good Guy" persona you built to survive your 30s.We cover:The Armor vs. The Skin: Why your "success" feels like a trap.The 4 Burnout Archetypes: Are you an Igniter, an Anchor, a Translator, or a Feeler? (And why pretending to be the wrong one is killing your nervous system).The Diagnostic: How to use the Zodiac Rebellion framework to stop gaslighting yourself.The Homework: Stop guessing. Go to https://www.toolatemyass.com/zodiacrebelliondothequiz and take the Zodiac Rebellion Quiz. Find out who is actually running the show.

Imagine a life filled with unexpected turns, from veterinary dreams to ranching realities, and then a bold leap into digital education.

John Waterhouse’s journey is a powerful reminder that life’s detours can lead to incredible destinations. Facing early academic challenges and societal expectations, he pursued his lifelong dream of becoming a veterinarian, only to pivot again and again. From running a family farm to pioneering digital education for veterinary professionals, John’s story highlights resilience, adaptability, and the courage to build something impactful at every stage of life.

Resources Mentioned:

Veterinary Teaching Academy (VTA): https://www.veterinaryteachingacademy.com/

Canine Rehab On Demand: https://www.veterinaryteachingacademy.com/caninerehabondemand

Connect with Fay at: https://toolatemyass.com/

If you’re navigating a midlife identity shift, feeling burned out, or questioning the life you built — this episode is for you.

In this episode of Too Late, My Ass™, Fay Chapple explores what happens when your identity outgrows the roles that once kept everyone else comfortable. The reliable one. The agreeable one. The strong one. The version of you that made life work — until it didn’t.

This conversation breaks down the neuroscience and psychology behind identity change, midlife reinvention, and why “stopping” an old way of being can feel more destabilizing than starting something new.

You’ll learn:

Why midlife reinvention often feels like restlessness, grief, or burnout

How unconscious performance becomes identity — and why it eventually collapses

What it really means to “rebrand yourself” beyond careers or social media

Why awareness changes everything — and why it’s also uncomfortable

How to navigate the space between who you were and who you’re becoming

This episode isn’t about motivation or starting over.

It’s about retiring an identity that no longer fits — without guilt, apology, or self-betrayal.

If you’ve reached a point where you can’t go back to who you were, but don’t yet know what comes next, this episode will help you understand why that feeling exists — and what it’s asking of you.

🎧 Listen now and begin your second act.

Join the waitlist for the Act II Inner Circle: https://www.faychapple.com/innercircle

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A six-figure salary, a busy clinic, and a professional title—she had it all. But Dr. Celia Waterhouse realized she was living the wrong life. In this inspiring episode, we dive into how she left the grueling, high-stakes world of veterinary medicine to reinvent herself as a full-time nomad and the founder of a thriving van life community. Hear the honest truth about the debt, the doubt, and the moment she said, "Too late my ass," to build her dream life on the open road.

Resources Mentioned:

The Revel Club: https://www.therevelclub.com/

Veterinary Teaching Academy: https://www.theveterinaryteachingacademy.com/

Too Late, My Ass: https://www.toolatemyass.com/

Get on the Waitlist for The Act II Inner Circle. Your monthly membership to stay consistent, connected, and unapologetically on track.

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You’ve been lied to.

The world told you your best years were behind you.

That change gets harder after 40.

That reinvention is a young person’s game.

Science says: Too Late, My Ass.

In this explosive episode, Fay Chapple unpacks the neuroscience behind why midlife is actually the PRIME age for reinvention. From neuroplasticity to fear loops to why your burnout is not failure but feedback, this is the unfiltered truth you’ve been waiting for.

Expect:

⚡ Bold humor

🧠 Real science

🔥 Sarcastic truth bombs

💥 A complete demolition of the “too late” narrative

You’ll learn:

• Why your brain gets BETTER, not worse, with age

• How novelty and courage literally rewire your neural pathways

• Why “waiting for motivation” keeps you stuck

• The psychology of identity upgrades

• How burnout can be the beginning of your second act

If you’re 40+ and craving a reset, a reinvention, or a brand-new chapter — this episode will change the way you see your brain, your life, and your future.

Get on the Waitlist for The Act II Inner Circle. Your monthly membership to stay consistent, connected, and unapologetically on track.

https://www.faychapple.com/innercircle