In this episode of Unclenched, Lina and Julie dive into a topic that hits deeper than most people realize… grief.

But not just the kind tied to losing someone.

They unpack the grief that comes from losing friendships, versions of yourself, relationships that changed, childhood experiences, and even the life you thought you’d have.

Through raw personal stories and honest conversation, they explore how grief shows up in unexpected ways… and how unprocessed grief can shape your reactions, relationships, and identity without you even realizing it.

This episode is your reminder that:

👉 grief isn’t one-size-fits-all

👉 you don’t “get over it”… you move through it

👉 and healing starts when you stop avoiding it

If you’ve ever felt heavy, triggered, or not quite like yourself… this might be why.

Topics We Cover
• What grief really is (and why it’s more than just death)

• Different types of grief: relationships, identity, life changes

• How childhood experiences and trauma shape your grief response

• The connection between grief, mental health, and burnout

• Internalizers vs. externalizers (and how you process pain)

• The stages of grief and why you need to go through them

• How unprocessed grief shows up in your behavior and relationships

• Turning pain into purpose instead of staying stuck in it

Key Moments
• “Grief isn’t just losing someone… it’s losing parts of your life”

• The difference between avoiding grief vs. actually processing it

• Why your past experiences still impact how you react today

• Internalizer vs. externalizer… which one are you?

• The truth about moving on… you don’t, you move through

• How to give your grief meaning instead of letting it define you

About This Podcast

Unclenched is a space for honest, grounded conversations about letting go, seeing ourselves more clearly, and living with more intention.

Hosted by Lina and Julie, the show explores friendship, identity, burnout, relationships, reinvention, and the pressure to always be strong.

No fixing. No pretending. Just real talk.

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We want this to be a shared space.

Have you ever lost a friend without a fight?

Have you outgrown someone… or been outgrown?

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Credits

Hosted by: Lina Bader & Julie C Butler

Produced by: Unclenched