"I do what I don't want to do."

It’s the ancient struggle Paul described in Romans 7, and it’s a reality many of us face every day. We rationally believe in God’s love and want to be present for our families, yet in moments of pressure, we react out of fear, control, or exhaustion—effectively sabotaging the very things we long for most.

In this episode of The Wholehearted Way, host Nathan King sits down with Wellspring Group founder Larry Bolden and Creative Director Anisa Sumlar to celebrate the launch of their new book, Becoming Wholehearted. Together, they pull back the curtain on the "internal disconnect" that keeps us stuck in cycles of self-sabotage.

In this conversation, we explore:

• False Visceral Beliefs: Why our "gut-level" beliefs (often formed in childhood) frequently override our intellectual or biblical truths.
• The Four Levels of the Heart: Moving beyond just "thinking" and "choosing" to engage the deeper realms of "feeling" and "desiring".
• The "Cats in the Cradle" Trap: Larry shares a poignant reflection on how even "good, Godly men" can unintentionally repeat the cycles of distance they once vowed to break.
• The Theology of Socks: Anisa tells a surprising story about a department store and a sock survey that revealed her own self-protective strategies against wanting beauty.
• From Black & White to Color: Moving from "knowing about" God to an experiential, "full-color" relationship with Him.

Whether you feel "burned out" on religious performance or simply wonder why you can't seem to follow through on your best intentions, this episode offers a signpost toward a life of greater integration and "ever becoming".

Resources Mentioned:

• The New Book: Becoming Wholehearted by Larry Bolden and Anisa Sumlar.
• Deepen the Journey: Download the free study guide and find more resources at becomingwholehearted.org.
• Listen to more: wholeheartedwaypodcast.com

Can you be "transparent" without actually being vulnerable? Many leaders and high-achievers use achievement, control, and even "helping" as protective strategies to keep people at a distance. In this episode, Nathan King and Mandy Wellington sit down with Larry Bolden, the founder of Wellspring Group, to discuss the difficult but transformative journey from living for achievement to living for intimacy.

Larry shares the pivotal moment in 2002 when he began to move beyond a rational, theological understanding of God’s love and into a wholehearted experience of it. He breaks down why true transformation cannot happen in isolation and why we often settle for "transparency behind a glass window" instead of the radical vulnerability required for real connection.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The Difference Between Helping and Connecting: How "helping" can actually be a way to avoid true intimacy.
• The Four Levels of the Heart: Why integrating your desires, feelings, thoughts, and choices is essential for wholeness.
• The "Glass Window" Effect: Why being open about the past isn't the same as being reachable in the present.
• A New Path for Leaders: Why pastors and leaders often feel isolated and how to build "wholehearted community".

About Larry Bolden

Larry Bolden founded Wellspring Group in 2003 after a 13-year career in financial consulting and 13 years serving as a pastor. He is the co-author of the new book, Becoming Wholehearted, which explores the path of humility and connection with God and others. Larry holds an MA in Counseling and has dedicated over two decades to guiding thousands through the "Battle for the Heart" retreat series.

Resources Mentioned:

• Wellspring Group: wellspringgroup.org
• New Book: Becoming Wholehearted by Larry Bolden and Anisa Sumler (becomingwholehearted.org)
• The Wholehearted Way Podcast: thewholeheartedway.transistor.fm

Have you ever noticed that you can be completely settled in your own life, yet totally blind to the walls you’ve built to stay safe? In this episode, Nathan King is joined by Mandi Wellington and Laura Arnold to explore a powerful paradox: sometimes the most profound growth doesn't come from a "5-step plan," but from simply hearing someone else have the courage to be vulnerable.

Mandi shares her recent realization, sparked by a previous conversation with Abby Mandella, that she had been avoiding "Door Number 2," a symbolic place of internal pain she wasn't ready to face. The group discusses how authentic community acts as a mirror, illuminating the blind spots we can't see on our own and moving us from a life of "performance for approval" to one of "sustained joy" and kindness.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The "Mirror Effect" of Community: Why listening to another person’s struggle can be more therapeutic than receiving direct advice.
• Opening "Door Number 2": Identifying the areas of pain or fear we've been avoiding and finding the courage to walk through them.
• From Duty to Delight: Shifting your relationship with God from one of "duty and obligation" to one of "gentle kindness."
• The Power of Remembrance: Using the biblical practice of recalling past faithfulness to fuel present courage.

Join us for a deep dive into what it means to live in a wholehearted community where being "raw and real" is the catalyst for true transformation.

The Wholehearted Way podcast is published by Wellspring Group. For more information about the upcoming "Becoming Wholehearted" book, please visit becomingwholehearted.org

Join us for this episode of The Wholehearted Way podcast, published by Wellspring Group, with a focus on how to live deeper, more fulfilling lives in wholehearted communities.

Our hosts, Nathan King and Mandi Wellington, spoke with Abby Mandella about Wellspring Group’s mission of spiritual formation and the upcoming release of their new book Becoming Wholehearted.

Mandela explains that the ministry focuses on helping individuals overcome the internal disconnect between their rational beliefs and emotional lives by fostering deeper connections with God, themselves, and others. She shares her personal transition from a guarded, introverted accountant to a vulnerable leader, emphasizing that true transformation occurs through the support of a wholehearted community. The conversation highlights how the new book and podcast aim to make these complex psychological and biblical concepts more accessible to the public. Ultimately, the source serves as an invitation for listeners to move away from self-protection and toward a life of authentic obedience and relational wholeness.

For more information about the upcoming Becoming Wholehearted book, please visit becomingwholehearted.org

Join us for this episode of The Wholehearted Way podcast, published by Wellspring Group, with a focus on how to live deeper, more fulfilling lives in wholehearted communities.

Our host, Nathan King, spoke with Laura Arnold about how she has stepped away from hiding her identity, and now shows others her fierce, wholehearted identity in Christ. She’s become a woman who weeps when God weeps, who fights for others’ freedom, and who creates spaces for others to encounter Jesus in powerful, personal ways.

From discipling young families to boldly calling women into deeper intimacy with God, Laura lives what she teaches: that each of us carries a God-given essence the world needs. Her life is an invitation to authenticity, surrender, and Spirit-led leadership.

For more information about the upcoming "Becoming Wholehearted" book, please visit becomingwholehearted.org

Join us for the first podcast of The Wholehearted Way, published by Wellspring Group, with a focus on how to live deeper, more fulfilling lives in wholehearted communities. Our host, Nathan King, spoke with Jason Orme about how he builds deeper relationships in his life through wholehearted everyday conversations.

For more information about the upcoming "Becoming Wholehearted" book, please visit becomingwholehearted.org