In this episode, we explore boundaries — what they are, why they matter, and how to set them in a way that supports your health, relationships, and emotional wellbeing.

Boundaries are the rules we follow to protect ourselves.

They are not about control or punishment — they are about safety, self-care, and respect.

We begin by looking at personal boundaries:

what feels acceptable to you physically, psychologically, and emotionally, and how you want to be treated. These boundaries are often invisible, but they shape every relationship we have.

I share the boundary string exercise, a simple but powerful way to understand where your boundaries sit and how to communicate them clearly. Setting boundaries is a form of self-care — but they must be communicated to exist.

For example:

“If you yell at me, I will end the phone call.”

This isn’t about controlling another person — it’s about protecting your nervous system and wellbeing.

We also explore the importance of balance:

not being too rigid and keeping people out, and not oversharing or abandoning yourself to keep connection.

Writing boundaries down matters. Research shows that when you write something down, you’re up to 91% more likely to follow through and communicate it.

To support the body, I guide you through grounding practices — placing a hand on the heart, breathing, and box breathing — to bring the nervous system back into regulation before and during boundary conversations.

In the second part of the video, we explore feelings, especially anger.

I read a Rumi poem and reflect on anger as a guardian of boundaries — a signal that something needs protecting, not something to suppress or fear.

Finally, we look at how to set boundaries in practice:

• Remembering you are worthy of respect

• Identifying your needs and wants (which are different for everyone)

• Understanding that boundaries may differ with family, friends, and work

• Communicating boundaries respectfully — and respecting the boundaries of others

If your boundaries are crossed or broken, I invite you to be gentle with yourself.

Your body remembers trauma, and it can make expressing boundaries feel difficult or unsafe. This doesn’t mean you’re failing — it means your system needs care.

Listen to your feelings.

Calm your body.

Write things down.

And come back to yourself.

Boundaries are not walls.

They are bridges to healthier, safer relationships — with others and with yourself.

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Honouring nature’s rhythm to guide healing, action, reflection, and release. 🌙✨

The moon has always been part of the foundation of Wholeyfit – The Soul’s Compass Method™.

My master’s studies in Mythology, Cosmology, Astrology, and the Sacred helped me understand the moon not just symbolically, but psychologically, somatically, and energetically.

The four moon phases mirror the cycles we move through in our inner world:

🌑 New Moon — New Beginnings

A time for intention setting, clarity, and quiet planting of seeds.

🌓 Waxing Moon — Growth & Action

Energy increases. This is when we take steps, build momentum, and move toward our goals.

🌕 Full Moon — Peak Energy, Illumination & Release

Insight rises. Truth becomes clear. What no longer serves can be released.

🌗 Waning Moon — Rest & Reflection

Energy softens. We slow down, restore, and integrate what we’ve learned.

These phases support the Wholeyfit method across all elements:

Emotions and inner states shift throughout the lunar cycle — especially for women.

The moon teaches us to flow, allow completion, and honour emotional cycles instead of suppressing them. This helps you feel, process, and release safely.

Eating seasonally and moving with the rhythm of nature stabilises the nervous system.

The phases help guide when to push, when to nourish, when to soften, and how to support your body with the right foods for grounding and balance.

Your goals can be aligned with the moon’s energetic flow:

new intentions, building action, gaining insight, and reflecting before the next cycle begins.

It brings structure without pressure — working with nature, not against it.

The moon becomes a metaphor for money cycles:

flow, growth, peak, release, and renewal.

This helps soften fear and build a healthier, soul-led relationship with finance.

Because everything is connected — mind, body, earth, psyche, cosmos.

Mythology allows us to access masculine and feminine energies, archetypes, and guides like Chiron, the Wounded Healer, who teaches us that pain can become purpose.

The moon is a reminder that healing happens in cycles.

Growth happens in phases.

And alignment comes from honouring your natural rhythm.

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BTC123: Be The Change – Money

Where soul meets structure — and money becomes your support for good 💛

Whatever you need in life costs money, and when used consciously, money becomes the support needed for good. It allows you to care for yourself, support others, and create meaningful change in the world.

BTC123 is the fourth pillar within Wholeyfit – The Soul’s Compass Method™.

By the time clients reach this stage, they’ve already created their soul-led map and compass — and abundance naturally begins to move toward them.

But for many, money can be a block:

a place of overwhelm, fear, anxiety, or deep uncertainty.

Some people fear not having enough.

Others fear having more than they know how to hold.

BTC123 helps transform that entire relationship.

This work teaches you to respect money, let it support you, and build a structure that quietly works in the background — reliable, sustainable, and aligned with your purpose. After an initial period of effort and conscious setup, money becomes something you can trust rather than fear.

It looks different for everyone.

Some need more stability, some need less.

It depends entirely on your soul’s purpose — not someone else’s definition of success.

In BTC123, we create:

✨ A conscious money plan

✨ A positive healthy money mindset

✨ A financial structure designed for the life you want

✨ A healthy partnership between ego and soul — safety + direction

✨ A release of old patterns such as scarcity, guilt, fear of success, or fear of letting go

This process gently unravels beliefs that have held you back for years.

Through visual tools, guided visualisations, affirmations, gratitude practices, and future-self techniques, you begin to see what truly matters — and create a structure that reflects that.

Just like with your nutrition, movement, or coaching plan, your money plan becomes grounded, practical, and soul-led.

BTC123 is financial healing with purpose.

A way of letting money support your life, your energy, and your calling — without draining you.

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