Most advice says work harder and keep trying. We put that to the test and reveal why so many smart teams still miss: they average their confidence across steps instead of multiplying their true odds. With award-winning strategy consultant and author Kyle Austin Young, we break down a simple, rigorous way to change results by changing probability—without needing a PhD or a spreadsheet marathon.

We start by exposing the averaging trap and building a clean success diagram: a left-to-right map of every step that must go right to hit your goal. Then we estimate the likelihood of each step, multiply to reveal real odds, and hunt for the failure modes stealing your probability. Kyle calls it “think negative” thinking: not doom and gloom, but a disciplined scan for what could go wrong—glitches, delays, weak offers, misreads—so you can de-risk them in advance. You’ll hear how he used this method to land a leadership job at 21 by neutralizing age bias, shifting interviews to future-focused plans, and mirroring team language drawn from their favorite books.

Inside this episode, we cover:

➡️ The 34% Trap: Why most leaders mathematically overestimate their chance of success and how to fix it.

➡️ The "Beard & Book" Strategy: How Kyle probability-hacked his way into a Director role at age 21.

➡️ Think Negative: Why identifying "failure modes" is the ultimate creative tool for CEOs.

➡️ Tuition Costs: How to view high-stakes mistakes as the price of your leadership education.

➡️ The Revenge Tour: Lessons in humility and strategic adjustment from trout fishing.

We dig into a nonprofit case where donations fell off a cliff. Agencies tried fresh stories, but a success diagram pointed somewhere less glamorous: a deliverability glitch that blocked a major inbox provider. Fixing the pipe beat rewriting the message. From there, we explore Hail Mary diagrams for stalled goals, when to pause versus quit, and how to stack smaller wins—bylines, relationships, proof—so big moves become high-odds plays. Along the way, Kyle’s stories about resilience, iteration, and the math behind confidence will give you tools to raise your odds in hiring, product launches, fundraising, and personal goals like marathon training.

If you’re ready to stop guessing, map your steps, and steal probability back from failure, this conversation gives you the playbook. Subscribe, share with a friend who bets on big goals, and leave a quick review to help more uncommon leaders find the show.

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Rizz might be the word of the year, but what if the real power behind it is as old as leadership itself? We sit down with Mylan Miller, author of The Charisma Craft, to unpack why charisma isn’t a mysterious spark you’re born with—it’s a learnable practice that blends confidence with kindness to create two-way human connection. From the psychology of competence and warmth to the tiny physical cues that change how you’re perceived, we map charisma from slang to strategy.

Mylan takes us inside the high-octane world of sports and entertainment to show how deals are actually won: not by pressure in the boardroom, but by curiosity over dinners, market walks, and shared stories. You’ll hear how reading the room across cultures, asking better questions, and remembering what matters to people can transform a pitch into a partnership. We dig into barriers like self-doubt and fragile self-trust, then counter them with simple, repeatable tools: the ENT method for eye contact and listening, and the WTF reset for grounded posture. These habits don’t just look good on camera—they build trust you can renew.

We also wrestle with authenticity in the age of AI. What’s real connection versus performative oversharing? How do you stay human when templates and prompts are everywhere? Mylan’s take is clear: technology can suggest words, but only you can sense the unsaid, calibrate tone, and turn a moment into momentum. Along the way, we explore leadership archetypes, celebrate models like Serena Williams for warrior-level authenticity, and reframe charisma as service, not spotlight.

If you’re ready to upgrade your presence, close smarter deals, and lead in a way people actually feel, hit play. Then subscribe, share this with a friend who leads, and leave a quick review to tell us which tool you’ll practice first.

𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 Milam Miller👇
➡️ 𝐋𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐞𝐝𝐈𝐧 (primary): https://www.linkedin.com/in/milam-miller-bck/
➡️ 𝐖𝐞𝐛𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞: https://beconfidentandkind.com/

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Stress doesn’t have to hijack your leadership. Executive coach Tracy Gazelle joins us to unpack the neuroscience of staying grounded when the stakes are high and the room heats up. We explore how clarity isn’t something you chase; it’s what emerges when the mental noise settles and you choose not to engage the inner critic that sounds so convincing in tough moments.

Tracy breaks down her Calm Clarity Operating System into three practical pillars: sleep physiology, mind literacy, and lived experience. We get tactical about 90‑minute sleep cycles, why waking at 3:30 a.m. often means you’re between cycles, and how to fall back asleep by refusing the “thought hooks” that try to wake your brain. You’ll hear actionable routines for better evenings—no blue light, consistent wind‑downs, and smarter choices around food and alcohol—and a simple morning cadence that protects creative thinking before the day scatters your focus.

• clarity as a natural state when the mind quiets
• inner critic as optional noise, not identity
• labeling emotions to shift out of fight or flight
• body cues as early alerts to pause and breathe
• Calm Clarity OS: sleep, mind, lived experience
• 90‑minute sleep cycles and consistent wake times
• falling back asleep without engaging thoughts
• evening routines: light, screens, food, alcohol
• morning creativity time for instinctive decisions
• practical stories of leaders gaining calm authority

From boardroom triggers to body cues, we map exactly how to catch fight or flight before it takes over. Labeling emotions in real time moves processing from survival centers to the prefrontal cortex, restoring reason without draining your passion. Tracy shares a standout client story of a hospital leader who transformed a “bulldog” reputation into calm authority, improved relationships at home, and earned consideration for a CEO role. We also touch on reading habits, Taoist wisdom, and how to build a personal routine that actually fits your life rather than someone else’s template.

If you want sharper decisions, steadier meetings, and more energy for the people who matter most, this conversation gives you a blueprint. Subscribe, share this episode with a leader who needs calm more than caffeine, and leave a review to help others find the show. What’s the first habit you’ll test tonight?

𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 Tracey Gazel:👇
➡️ 𝐋𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐞𝐝𝐈𝐧 (primary):https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracey-gazel/
➡️ 𝐖𝐞𝐛𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞: https://traceygazel.com/

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