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Before Grindr.

Before curated identities.

Before “community” lived in a group chat.

There was The Odyssey.

In this edition of The O-Files, Peter sits down with drag icon Robin Graves to revisit Davie Street in its heyday — when queer spaces weren’t optional, they were survival.

They talk about:

• The Odyssey as a “third place” — not just a bar, but a lifeline
• Cruising before apps and connection before algorithms
• The unspoken rule that drag queens didn’t date (and why that changed)
• The generational shift — why older gays feel the need to be around other gay men, and why younger people might not
• And why preserving queer micro-history matters more than we think

Because if we don’t tell the stories of the back rooms, the dance floors, and the queens who built it — they disappear.

And when our spaces vanish, something in us goes with them.

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⚠️ Content Warning: This episode contains explicit sexual discussion. Listener discretion advised.

This week on The Superficial Spirit, Peter dives into a topic he’s been curious about for years — fisting, intimacy, and the psychology of extreme sex.

Joined by Zander — a Vancouver-based community builder and event organizer — the conversation goes far beyond shock value. Zander helps create intentional spaces centered on consent, education, trust, and care within Vancouver’s growing fisting community.

Together, they explore:

• How fisting culture has evolved from taboo to community-driven
• The surprising role of breathwork, communication, and vulnerability
• The difference between performance and connection
• Hookup culture, loneliness, and whether intensity replaces intimacy
• The line between kink, spirituality, and embodied experience
• Sobriety, chosen family, and building sex-positive spaces without chaos

What starts as a conversation about an explicit practice turns into something much deeper — a discussion about belonging, embodiment, and the ways queer people search for connection.

This episode is candid, graphic, and unexpectedly thoughtful.

If you’ve ever wondered what drives people toward more extreme forms of sex — or what intimacy looks like in a hookup-driven world — this one’s for you.

BlueSky & X (Twitter): @CanadianFFboyXX

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Event Page (Instagram & BlueSky): @holesofthenorth_events

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This week on The Superficial Spirit, Peter sits down with global icon Jaylene Tyme — celebrated Two-Spirit, sober, Indigenous trans woman, drag artist, healer, and advocate.

With over three decades in the community, Jaylene’s journey spans from private farm life to queer club kid, from street survival and addiction to 27 years of sobriety, from Sixties Scoop survivor to national television on Canada’s Drag Race. But this conversation goes far beyond reality TV.

Jaylene opens up about:

• Discovering drag as spiritual medicine
• Growing up queer when clubs were private and HIV/AIDS was devastating the community
• Finding self-worth after addiction and displacement
• Reconnecting with her Indigenous identity at age 50
• Bringing Pride into federal prisons
• Why Miss Congeniality was her true win
• The responsibility of representation in a time of anti-trans legislation
• What spirituality really means — beyond religion
• And how to know if you’re on the right path

This is a conversation about legacy, healing, visibility, and the quiet power of simply showing up.

Jaylene doesn’t just talk about drag — she talks about why it matters.

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