Have you ever felt like everyone is whispering about you after a divorce? In this episode of The Solo Playbook, Allen Kennemur takes a deep dive into the mental side of post-divorce paranoia—the myths, the truths, and the noise we create in our own heads. From social media echo chambers to the small-town gossip you think you hear, Allen unpacks why our minds convince us we’re under a spotlight and how to take back control of the story we tell ourselves.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “What are they saying about me?”—this conversation will help you reframe the question and find peace in your own truth.

In this episode of The Solo Playbook, Allen unpacks the emotional reality of dating after divorce. Is it too early to date again? How do raw emotions, children, fairness to your partner, and even sex play into the decision? Allen shares candid insights on navigating this stage with honesty, vulnerability, and balance—so you can move forward without losing yourself or hurting those you care about.

In this episode of The Solo Playbook, we go deep into the battlefield of the mind and talk about what it means to wrestle with—and ultimately tame—the thoughts that can consume us.

We break down the heavy hitters: anger, frustration, desperation, intrusive thoughts, paralyzing thoughts, and even the dark pull of suicidal thinking. These aren’t just abstract concepts; they’re real struggles that can derail our lives if left unchecked.

The conversation explores:

• How anger often masks deeper wounds, and how to redirect it into something constructive.
• The hidden cost of living in constant frustration and the small shifts that restore balance.
• Desperation as both a danger and a wake-up call to seek connection and clarity.
• Intrusive and paralyzing thoughts—what they look like, why they strike at the worst times, and practical ways to break free.
• A raw acknowledgment of suicidal thoughts, the importance of naming them out loud, and where to turn for help.

At the heart of the episode is the idea that while we can’t always control the thoughts that enter our minds, we can decide how much power they get to hold. Taming your thoughts doesn’t mean silencing them—it means learning to guide them, challenge them, and use them as a catalyst for growth instead of destruction.

This is a candid, unfiltered conversation designed to remind you that you’re not alone, and that strength is found not in suppressing your thoughts, but in taking authority over them.