In this episode, we dive into one of the most challenging but also most liberating parts of life after divorce—rediscovering who you are and rebuilding your identity. Divorce can leave you questioning your roles, your values, and even your sense of purpose. But it can also create space to explore the parts of yourself that may have been buried, overlooked, or silenced during your marriage.

We’ll talk about:

• Letting go of labels – How to separate your true self from the roles of “spouse,” “partner,” or “half of a couple.”
• Exploration as healing – Practical ways to experiment with new interests, friendships, and routines that reflect your authentic self.
• Reframing the narrative – Why identity isn’t something lost in divorce but something evolving and how to own your story with confidence.
• Balancing stability and discovery – How to maintain consistency for yourself and your children while still leaning into personal growth.
• Building a future self – Exercises and reflections for aligning your actions today with the identity you want to step into tomorrow.

This episode is about reclaiming your voice, reshaping your vision for life, and giving yourself permission to be more than who you were in your marriage. Rebuilding identity after divorce isn’t about starting over—it’s about building forward.

In this episode of The Solo Playbook, we enter Months 3–4 of the post-divorce journey—a critical season where the dust begins to settle, and it’s time to strengthen the foundation for what comes next. After the initial whirlwind of emotions and adjustments, these months are about steadying yourself: securing your routines, stabilizing finances, and creating a sense of consistency for both you and your family.

We’ll dive into:

• Emotional stability – learning to recognize patterns, practicing self-discipline in thought and response, and grounding yourself so that sadness doesn’t dictate your path.
• Financial footing – practical steps to get organized, reduce stress around money, and start shaping a long-term strategy for security.
• Parenting rhythms – how to lean into co-parenting with consistency, while giving your kids the stability they need in a time of change.
• Personal growth and identity – shifting from survival mode to a rebuilding mindset, beginning to re-discover what makes you feel whole again.

Think of this stage as pouring the concrete that your new life will be built upon. Without a strong foundation, everything else risks crumbling—but with it, you’ll create a solid platform for growth, resilience, and a future filled with possibility.

This weeks episode focuses on the first 60 days of life after a divorce is finalized. Allen goes into what to expect, how to stay focused and has a special guest, Scott Stearns, who gives some helpful insight into the financial things to consider post divorce.