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  • 116. Sex Addiction: Excuses Vs Ownership

    116. Sex Addiction: Excuses Vs Ownership
    2026/06/30
    Does your sex addiction and pornography use often stem from childhood and your teenage years? Yes. And, you need to make sure you are still taking ownership of your actions today. In the end, you did what you did, and you chose to hide it, lie about it, and repeat it. Too often, I see men who get lost in the recovery plan, recovery definitions, and the betrayal healing steps. The result can be a lack of ownership. I will tell you one thing I know for sure about sex addiction recovery… ownership of your actions is key if you want to achieve lasting recovery and earn back your wife's trust. In this episode, I share a lesson I learned that changed my own sex addiction recovery. It also ended up taking our marriage in a much more positive direction. Ownership and acceptance can be a challenging thing to do on your own. You will need a group of guys to call you out and hold you accountable. This is one of the biggest benefits of peer support in sex addiction recovery. If you have yet to read or listened to my book, you can find it here on Amazon and Audible: https://a.co/d/06J78kat
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    17 分
  • 115. “It’s just porn”, “It was all virtual”, “We never had sex”: Want to Hear The Truth?

    115. “It’s just porn”, “It was all virtual”, “We never had sex”: Want to Hear The Truth?
    2026/06/23
    Sex addicts in recovery will often compare their compulsive behaviors to those of other men they meet in recovery. They will say things like: “Mine wasn’t that bad” “It was just a few times” “We never had sex” “It was all virtual” “It’s just porn” There are a few problems with statements like this. It’s going to hurt your recovery Comparing yourself to others is likely a big part of your recovery and needs to stop Your wife couldn't care less what other men are doing Recovery is about honesty, integrity, and authenticity. It’s about acting in a way that you wouldn’t hide from others. In this episode, Chris Burns and I talk about these comparative statements and the truth behind them. Chris is a certified sex addiction therapist and the founder of Re-write Recovery Counseling. He and I both have a passion for helping men live in integrity with their values. If you’re interested in working with Chris, you can find his website here: https://www.rewrite-recovery.com/ If you are interested in joining one of my recovery groups, you can visit my website here: successfuladdict.com If you have yet to read or listened to my book, you can find it here on Amazon and Audible: https://a.co/d/06J78kat
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    47 分
  • 114. Roland’s Addiction Story

    114. Roland’s Addiction Story
    2026/06/16
    Despite speaking about most of my behaviors over the years. I’ve never shared my sex addiction story on this Podcast before. In this episode, I walk listeners through my journey front to back. My childhood and how things led me to acting out. My early sexual acting-out behaviors and how they evolved. The events that caused me to develop my specific process addiction in my adulthood My discovery process While I’m quite open about my behavior. This was still a scary episode to record. Our world is not ready to accept sex addicts as they are. There is a ton of judgment and, oftentimes, social consequences if people find out about your past behavior. I’ve lived those consequences. I’ve been judged and continue to be judged. I’ve lost friends, businesses, and opportunities because of how public I’ve been about my past. It sucks. Many people won’t let you have this problem. And, that’s not fair. But my hope is that, by being open and sharing my story, the world will one day stop looking at us like freaks and perverts. I always encourage men to be honest about this, but I do want to prepare you for the potential consequences of doing so. For the betrayed partners who listened to this episode, thank you for taking the time to hear my story. I know I speak on behalf of all men in recovery when I say: Thank you for giving us a second chance. We don’t deserve it after what we’ve put you through.
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    39 分
  • 113. What Your Wife Actually Means: “You’re Not Doing Enough Recovery Work”

    113. What Your Wife Actually Means: “You’re Not Doing Enough Recovery Work”
    2026/06/09
    Betrayed Partners often say, “You’re not doing enough in your sex addiction recovery.” There’s a reason why betrayed partners say this, and you need to understand how to answer this question if you hope to rebuild their trust after infidelity. In this episode, Tiffany Comiskey and I talk about what is going on in the mind of both parties (the sex addict and the betrayed partner) when this question is asked. Tiffany is a certified coach who works with couples, the betrayed, and the betrayer. In this podcast, we talk about how men should respond when their sex addiction recovery work is being questioned. If you are interested in working with Tiffany, you can visit her website here: https://www.hopecfl.com/coach-tiffany If you have not yet read my book, I outline what is required to be in good recovery in great detail. You can find it on both Amazon and Audible here: https://a.co/d/0iOg7NlH
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    57 分
  • 112. Do You Trust Yourself to Stay Sober? Should You?

    112. Do You Trust Yourself to Stay Sober? Should You?
    2026/06/02
    Do you trust yourself to stay sober? I don’t, and this podcast explains why. I do believe I will find a way to maintain my sobriety from sex addiction. And, I believe you can too. But I’m nervous living in the world we live in with my personality. High-achieving men have their hands full. Successful male culture in 2026 does not seem to value integrity. The message is, “Never settle! And, get ahead at all costs.” For this reason, you need to keep your head on a swivel. It’s okay not to trust yourself. It’s actually in integrity to say such a thing if it’s true. In this podcast, I’ll explain how to manage this in your own sex addiction recovery. If you haven't read my book yet, I discuss this concept in greater detail. You can find it on Amazon or Audible here:https://a.co/d/04GxERiP
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    10 分
  • 111. Integrity is Key to Recovery and Healing Your Marriage After Sexual Betrayal

    111. Integrity is Key to Recovery and Healing Your Marriage After Sexual Betrayal
    2026/05/22
    It’s no mystery that integrity is one of the most important pieces in both sex addiction recovery and healing your marriage after infidelity. But what is integrity, and how do you repair the damage caused after cheating? In this episode, I’m joined by one of my favorite experts in the field of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is an author and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. Crystal and I talk about integrity and the effects of violating it will have on a marriage. For those interested in reading Crystal's new book, “Betrayal Trauma Anger | You're not Crazy...You're Angry...And You Should Be!: How to Process Complex Anger While Healing from the Impact of Sexual Betrayal” You can find the book here on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FN6P62K8 If you’re struggling with sex addiction or compulsive sexual behavior and you have not yet read my book, you can find it here: https://a.co/d/0dWg1hCs
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    50 分
  • 110. The Sex Addiction Relapse Rate is HIGH. Why Aren’t We Talking About This?

    110. The Sex Addiction Relapse Rate is HIGH. Why Aren’t We Talking About This?
    2026/05/12
    The sex addiction relapse rate is believed to be between 67 and 80 percent at 5 years. That means only 20-30% of men can avoid relapse. Why aren’t we talking more about this?! In this episode, I go on a bit of a rant. And, it’s likely to offend some people. That was not my intent. My intent was to be helpful. Some people will hear this rant and have had a totally different experience from what I describe. That’s okay. Skip this episode. However, I get on dozens of phone calls each month with men to whom this does apply. They describe the frustrations with their recovery experience and finding like-minded men to connect with. This episode is for them. If you are a high performer looking for a group of like-minded men to connect with in recovery, visit my website. I run small recovery groups of 10 men. They range from business owners, lawyers, doctors, sales professionals, to professional athletes. Fill out an application at www.successfuladdict.com
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    19 分
  • 109. Healing Your Marriage After Infidelity: The 3 Phases Of Betrayal Recovery

    109. Healing Your Marriage After Infidelity: The 3 Phases Of Betrayal Recovery
    2026/05/05
    Healing your marriage after sexual betrayal can be a mess. Sometimes it feels like you have a plan… other times it feels like you have no plan at all. In this episode, Tesa Saulmon (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) outlines a clear 3-phase plan that can help. Betrayal trauma recovery is complex. Add that to a sex addict in recovery, and you have quite the challenge. It’s important to use a framework so that your marriage can stay on track. Tesa uses the framework created by Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith to help couples heal after sexual betrayal. In this episode, she explains the 3 phases and how to navigate each one. If you would like to contact Tesa Saulmon, you can find her website here: https://www.roottobloomtherapy.com/ If you’re a high achiever, executive, or entrepreneur and you have not yet read my book, you can find it and the audiobook here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/0iOe8wNU
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