You work hard, solve the problems, and make everyone else’s life function. So why are you still underpaid and putting your own future last? This episode examines five beliefs that can keep women giving more while receiving less—and offers a different way to value your work.
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Alanna Kaivalya, Ph.D., challenges five familiar beliefs: proving yourself will guarantee a reward; being useful will keep you safe; becoming powerful will bring punishment; your life must support everyone else’s success; and your needs come last. Drawing on her own experience of giving up valuable intellectual property, she explores recognition, compensation, unpaid labor, motherhood, and the cost of postponing your own work.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Separate being needed from being valued and appropriately compensated.
- Recognize how the pursuit of approval can limit your voice and ambition.
- Make room for caregiving realities when considering the structure of your work.
- Put your own priorities on the calendar instead of waiting for every other demand to disappear.
Read the companion article: The five lies keeping women broke. Return to the five beliefs, the alternatives Alanna proposes, and the supporting research linked in the article.
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Listen next:
- Ep 50: Stop people-pleasing and performing for approval
- Ep 65: Begin investing in your own work
- Ep 69: Turn wisdom into responsible professional coaching
Timestamps:
00:00 — Underpaid, undervalued, and unable to choose
05:11 — The belief that proving yourself guarantees a reward
10:37 — Recognition, compensation, and ownership
16:46 — Generosity, reciprocity, and the cost of usefulness
22:35 — The consequences of making yourself smaller
28:25 — Motherhood, work, and choices across generations
33:58 — Why waiting to put yourself first has a cost
39:41 — Giving your knowledge a professional structure
About Alanna: Alanna Kaivalya, Ph.D., holds a doctorate in Mythological Studies and Depth Psychology. She is the author of The Way of the Satisfied Woman and creator of The Satisfied Method™. Her work brings feminine psychology and mythological insight to women’s lives, relationships, and personal development.
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