You’ve probably heard of IQ and EQ—but what if the missing piece in your relationships is PQ? In this episode, Julie and Yue are joined by Shirzad Chamine, bestselling author and creator of Positive Intelligence, to unpack how our inner saboteurs quietly undermine relationships. Drawing from neuroscience and cognitive psychology, Shirzad explains why we’re wired to judge ourselves and our partners, how the nine saboteurs show up in dating and long-term relationships, and what happens when we let them run the show. Together, they explore how building positive intelligence helps interrupt reactivity, reduce self-sabotage, and create more fulfilling, emotionally resilient relationships.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What Positive Intelligence (PQ) Is—and Why It Matters in Relationships

• The 9 Saboteurs That Appear in Every Relationship

• Why Judgment Is Hardwired Into the Brain (and How to Interrupt It)

• How Saboteurs Create Conflict, Distance, and Self-Sabotage in Love

• Practical Ways to Strengthen Your PQ Muscles

• How to Respond to Triggers With Curiosity Instead of Reactivity

• How Higher PQ Leads to Healthier, More Fulfilling Relationships

To learn more about Shirzad Chamine: follow @shirzadchamine and visit https://www.positiveintelligence.com