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A bullied kid named Blue walked into a dojo and found a lifetime blueprint for leadership at home and at work. That mentor didn’t just teach kicks—he taught trust, focus, and a community model that turns students into teachers. In this conversation, we go deep on how those early lessons shape the way we parent, listen, and show up for the people we lead.

Blue Stiley is a professional keynote speaker, podcast host, and author who has spent decades uncovering and cultivating potential in himself and others. He discovered his passion for mentoring and entrepreneurship at just 13 while teaching martial arts, and over the past 30 years, he has carried that gift forward to inspire leaders, teams, and communities.

We talk about “currency,” the motivations that really move someone, and how a single, well-aimed sentence from a trusted mentor can redirect a teenager more effectively than a hundred lectures. Blue shares a raw look at learning from two fathers: the sensei who modeled presence and the biological dad who modeled what to avoid. That “two-teacher lens” fuels his philosophy as a model, actor, strength coach to Olympians, and now keynote speaker: earn trust, make genuine connections, and build a community where people feel heard, seen, and valued.

You’ll hear practical mindset tools too. Leave problems at the door to train your focus. Put the phone down because a kid’s request is a 10-minute window, not an hour. Let the egg break—experiments teach faster than warnings. Teach self-defense literacy without pressure by emphasizing hips-first power and clean fundamentals. And don’t miss the baseball cards hustle: a cafeteria side deal turned into licensed tables at card shows, powered by a mom who drove the miles and believed. That story paid for college and cemented a simple definition of success—pickups after school, family dinners, and presence that compounds.

If you’re a parent, coach, or leader, this one will sharpen your approach. Listen, learn someone’s currency, and build a community around them. If it resonates, tap follow, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review—what lesson are you taking into your home this week?

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What if the fastest way to lead your home better isn’t another productivity hack, but the courage to slow down, feel uncomfortable, and ask for help? We sit with performance coach and Scratch Golfers Mindset host, Paul Salter, to unpack how a former perfectionist and firstborn “golden child” rewired his beliefs to become a more patient, present dad while co‑parenting his one‑year‑old son.

Paul takes us inside the real tradeoffs: surrendering control, choosing kindness over being “nice,” and learning to apologize well. He shares the simple, powerful rituals that build identity and safety at home—daily affirmations, a handwritten letter for each birthday, and modeling ownership when he misses the mark. We dig into hypnosis as a practical mindset tool, not a party trick: accessing the subconscious to unlearn scarcity, detach self‑worth from results, and install habits that support presence. The same patterns that show up on the golf course—fear of judgment, score obsession, tension under pressure—mirror how we show up at work and with our kids. Paul shows how to translate a calm pre‑shot routine into a pre‑meeting breath and how belief, not bravado, drives consistency on and off the course.

Along the way, we explore repairing sibling relationships, redefining masculinity through emotional availability, and navigating co‑parenting disagreements with patience and respect. You’ll leave with three anchors for home leadership: give your child a better emotional experience than you had, demonstrate kindness with firm boundaries, and treat your child as a teacher who reveals where you still grip too tight. If you’ve ever felt pulled between crushing goals and being fully present at the dinner table, this conversation offers a clear, compassionate path forward.

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What if the most important leadership job you’ll ever hold doesn’t come with a test or a title? We sit down with Derek Belch—former Stanford kicker, startup founder, and dad of three—to unpack what real presence looks like, how values take root, and why failing publicly can be a gift to your kids.

Derek grew up with parents who made time their superpower. That “time-rich” model frames how he and his wife run the Belch huddle today: clear rules that point to deeper principles, kindness on repeat, and respect for your body and your limits. He shares the tough-love moment that transformed his baseball path at 13, the night he missed four field goals against Notre Dame and chose to show the tape to his kids, and the day he walked off a US AM Golf qualifier mid-shanks—then owned it at home. The throughline is radical accountability: you can’t control the bad round, but you can control your response, your repair, and your next rep.

We also trace the unlikely origin of STRIVR, Derek’s VR training company, born from a Stanford coaching thesis to help quarterbacks process faster. With a nudge from David Shaw, he turned a prototype into a platform used by major enterprises to build skills through immersive learning. Along the way, Derek explains why golf’s meritocracy resonates so deeply: the scorecard doesn’t care about your résumé, only your work. That mindset fuels his audacious goal to hopefully qualify for a PGA Tour event while leading a startup and coaching four youth teams.

If you’re a parent, coach, or leader who wants practical ways to model humility, set culture-shaping rules, and turn failure into momentum, this conversation will sharpen your playbook. Hit follow, share this with a friend who needs the reminder, and leave a quick review with your favorite takeaway—we read every one.

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