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Discernment or Confirmation Bias? | When “God Said” Sounds Like What You Already Wanted

The Myrrhologist Podcast | Marissa Saint Luc

In this episode, we enter a heart-searching conversation about the difference between genuine spiritual discernment and confirmation bias—and why the two can feel dangerously similar when desire has already made a decision.

This is not a message about doubting everything you hear.

This is a motive test.

Confirmation bias gathers evidence to defend what the heart has already chosen. Discernment brings every desire, interpretation, prophecy, and opportunity before the Lord—and remains willing to receive an answer it did not expect.

Sometimes we are not waiting for God to speak.

We are waiting for Him to agree.

When our emotions are invested in a particular outcome, we can interpret every open door as confirmation, every coincidence as a sign, and every encouraging word as permission. We may call something “peace” simply because it offers relief, or call resistance “warfare” when it may actually be the mercy of God redirecting us.

True discernment does not begin with, “How can I prove this is God?”

It begins with, “Lord, what is true?”

In today’s episode, we talk about:

Why discernment and confirmation bias can initially sound alike

How desire can influence what we believe we are hearing from God

The danger of searching for voices that will confirm a decision we have already made

Why repetition does not automatically equal divine confirmation

The difference between the peace of God and the relief of getting what we want

How Scripture, fruit, timing, character, and wise counsel help us discern

Why correction is not rejection—and closed doors are not always spiritual warfare

How to surrender an outcome without surrendering faith

Why mature discernment remains teachable, patient, and willing to be wrong

And how to recognize when preference has quietly taken the place of obedience

Discernment is not the ability to make our desires sound spiritual.

It is the willingness to place those desires on the altar.

God is not threatened by our questions. He is not asking us to manufacture certainty or force meaning out of every detail. He invites us to slow down, examine the fruit, search the Scriptures, and let Him reveal what is operating beneath the surface.

If a word is truly from God, it does not need manipulation to survive examination.

And if the Lord removes something we were convinced He promised, our faith must remain rooted in His character—not in our interpretation.

The question is not only, “Did I hear something?”

The deeper question is, “Am I willing to obey God if His answer contradicts what I hoped to hear?”

If this message searched your heart, share it.

Release the need to be right.

Lay down the outcome.

And ask the Lord to purify your hearing until truth matters more than confirmation.

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Until next time: seek truth, remain teachable, and let the Lord discern the intentions of your heart.

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