Is your gymnast stuck in a “D1 or bust” mindset? In this episode, Ali Havel and Stacie Roman reveal how perfectionism and fear of rejection can quietly sabotage the college recruiting process.

When gymnasts tie their worth to a perfect outcome, they often avoid posting on social media, hesitate to advocate for themselves, and struggle under competition pressure. Ali and Stacie explain the science behind perfectionism, share real recruiting stories, and discuss why college coaches value resilience, growth, and confidence more than perfection.

Tune in to learn how to help your gymnast break free from the perfectionism trap, enjoy the sport again, and build the mindset skills needed for both recruiting and life beyond gymnastics.

• [00:00] How perfectionism steals recruiting opportunities
• [01:10] What college coaches are really looking for
• [02:14] The biology behind perfectionism and fear
• [03:45] Injury, resilience, and missed recruiting opportunities
• [05:06] Why gymnasts eliminate themselves before coaches do
• [05:50] The confidence gap and self-promotion
• [06:35] From Excel Platinum to D1 walk-on: a success story
• [08:45] Why online presence matters to recruiters
• [11:16] Practice success vs. meet performance
• [12:30] Learning from elite gymnasts’ setbacks
• [14:40] The reality of college roster spots
• [19:40] Reclaiming joy in the recruiting journey
• [21:20] Improving parent-gymnast communication
• [22:30] The Get Recruited Bootcamp
• [24:41] Why overcoming perfectionism matters beyond gymnastics

• Perfectionism Prevents Action: Many gymnasts would rather avoid opportunities than risk being imperfect.
• Coaches Value Resilience: Recruiters want athletes who can handle setbacks, injuries, and mistakes.
• Most Gymnasts Must Market Themselves: Only a small percentage are actively recruited without self-promotion.
• Fear Drives Performance Anxiety: Competition struggles often stem from fear, not lack of ability.
• Mindset Skills Last a Lifetime: The tools that help gymnasts navigate recruiting also help them succeed in college, careers, and relationships.

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