“The dark masculine isn’t toxic, it’s the part of a man that gives him backbone, sexual vitality, direction, and the power to meet life fully.”

In this episode, I’m joined by Alex Mishka, an embodied masculine facilitator who works with men and couples exploring shadow work, sexuality, polarity, and what he calls the dark masculine.

This conversation dives into one of the most misunderstood forces in men’s work, the dark masculine.

We also explore why modern relationships are under pressure, why so many men feel disconnected from their power and sexuality, and what it really takes to become a man who can lead — in love, in life, and within himself.

The episode covers:

• The Dark Masculine - reclaiming sexual energy, vitality, and inner authority

• Shame and repression - why men are so disconnected from their power and sexuality

• The Nice Guy pattern - how cultural conditioning has weakened masculine direction

• Modern relationships - the rising expectations on men and the new paradigm of masculine leadership

Alexs Info:

Savage Hearts online group -

https://alexmischka.com/savage-heart_2026

Website: https://alexmischka.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alex_mischka/

Nialls Info:

Men Leadership Programme (MLP1): starts 16th March details here

Most men don’t struggle in relationships because they don’t care, they struggle because they were never taught how.

In this episode, I’m joined by David Chambers, founder of The Authentic Man a charismatic coach in the UK who specialises in dating, relationships, and intimacy for men. With more than a decade of experience, he has honed his skills in empowering men to develop deeply connected relationships and vibrant sexual lives. His focus on nurturing the true, authentic self and healthy masculinity has led many to transformative personal growth.

This conversation is about the evolution of modern men. About responsibility. About emotional maturity. About breaking the tribal conspiracy that keeps men disconnected and isolated from themselves and therefore from women.

In this episode we cover:

• How childhood relationships shape our adult intimacy

• Why shame keeps men stuck — and how taking responsibility restores power

• Emotional attunement: the skill most men were never taught

• Why emotional maturity is now the real marker of a high-value man

The Authentic Man details:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

Podcast: The Authentic Man Podcast

Niall Graham details

Mens Leadership Programme, starts 16th March - here

In this episode, I’m joined by Fergus Cronin — an emotionally focused couples therapist who’s been working with Irish couples for over a decade, right at the heart of intimacy, conflict, and repair.

Together, we go deep into what really happens when relationships break down — not at the level of communication skills, but at the level of attachment, shame, and the body.

This episode covers:

• Why conflict is a necessary part of relationship — and how rupture & repair actually deepen love

• The pursue–withdraw cycle and how couples unknowingly trap each other

• How childhood attachment wounds hijack adult relationships

• Why emotional safety, not independence, is the foundation of intimacy

Fergus Cronin - You can check out Fergus's website https://ferguscronin.ie/

Mens Leadership Programme - For full details of MLP starting 16th March. Check it out here

Enjoy Niall

If you’ve ever felt like men are changing… but not fast enough — this episode is for you. The relationship & expectations between men & women is changing rapidly.

Women are no longer willing to carry emotional immaturity in a relationship. They’re asking for men who are present, responsible, and emotionally available… and for a lot of men, that feels almost impossible — not because they don’t care, but because they were never taught how.

Today I’m joined by Hugh Newton — a man who’s been in the trenches of men’s work for over two decades. I first met Hugh nearly ten years ago during my own initiation with the Mankind Project. He also works with A Celebration of Being an organisation supporting men & women together.

He’s also the founder of The Sovereign’s Journey — and in this conversation we go deep into

- Why so many men live in survival mode

- Why the “hero” path eventually burns us out

-What it actually takes to move into sovereignty — where love, leadership, and real partnership become possible.

If you’re a man who wants to show up better… or a woman who wants to understand what’s happening beneath the surface — I genuinely think this one matters.

Info on Hugh:

Website: https://www.thesovereignsjourney.co.uk/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hugh_newton/?hl=en

For details on Mens Leadership Programme click here

Ianto Doyle is a men’s work facilitator, coach, and one of the founders of Journeyman UK—the UK branch of an international rites-of-passage movement for teenage boys. With roots in the Mankind Project, Ianto has spent decades creating spaces where boys and men can drop the mask, meet their truth, and be welcomed into mature masculinity through challenge, blessing, and authentic connection.

He’s also the founder of Life Intelligence, a coaching philosophy that asks one question at the heart of every decision: is this life-enhancing or life-destroying? Ianto’s work weaves personal healing with right relationship to community, culture, and the living world—grounded, practical, and deeply values-led.

We are also joined by my good friend Robin Botley an Elder with over 30 years experience in mens work. This is a great conversation with decades of experience between these 2 wonderful men. I hope you enjoy.

In the podcast we cover:

1. Lineage & belonging — the mystery of ancestry, identity, and where “home” really is.

2. Father wound & repair — authoritarian fathers, unresolved grief, and healing without “having it out.”

3. Rites of passage & mentoring boys — Journeyman UK, initiation, and why boys need socially-activated manhood.

4. Men, women & culture wars — the medicine of wise women, misandry/misogyny, and rebuilding community as the answer.

Ianto Doyle - If you are interested in Ianto and the work he does you can check out this website here

1:1 Mentoring - if you feel I can help you on your journey of becoming a man setup a conversation here Book a call

Over the past six months many men have come to me saying the same thing: “My relationship is falling apart… and I don’t know what to do.”

In this episode, I dive into why relationships are breaking down for men, why our best efforts often aren’t enough, and how cultural and inherited wounds shape the way Irish men show up in love.

I break down the emotional skills women actually need from us, the hidden shame we carry, and why relationship is both the hardest and most transformative arena of a man’s life.

This episode is a roadmap for men who want to stop collapsing, stop performing, and start becoming emotionally grounded, capable partners.

I cover:

- The impact of the absent or emotionally shutdown father

- 7 essential qualities women need from men today

- How childhood wounds and nervous system patterns show up in adult intimacy

- Why relationship can’t be our therapy—and what men must do instead

If you enjoyed this podcast please share it with someone struggling in relationship.

Info & bookings for (re)Claiming Desire & Reframing Rejection Day retreat

Want to deepen your relationship? To discuss how I can help you book a discovery call here

Michael Ryan is a Yoga and Breathwork teacher with over 20 years experience. In recent years his work has focussed on guiding men towards a deeper sense of purpose.

He creates safe, powerful spaces for men to explore emotional awareness, strength and authenticity. He leads with grounded presence, helping men reconnect to what truly matters.

In this podcast we cover:

- The weight and heaviness of what we hold as men in Ireland

- Creating safety within as a key to navigating trauma

- Healing the father wound by choosing to heal and change

- the Important role of Rites of passage for young men.

More info on Michael:

Nature of Man website: www.natureorman.ie

Michaels personal website: www.michaelryan.yoga

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelryan_thewayhome/

More info on Niall:

Discover how I can help you: book a call

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_niall_graham_/

My guest on the show this week is Catherine Hale is a nervous system coach and founder of Culture of Care Training, helping changemakers, coaches, and leaders unlock their potential through trauma-informed facilitation.

With over a decade of experience, she guides people into deeper authenticity and resilience, weaving personal healing with collective cultural repair.

In this episode we dive deep into:

• The transformative power of nervous system regulation for emotional healing.
• The pervasive impact of shame on self-perception and relationships.
• The importance of doing personal work outside of relationships to access emotions.
• The role of collective healing in dismantling oppressive social systems.

More info on Catherine:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catherinehaleuk/

Website: https://catherinehale.co.uk/

Field Facilitator Training Online: https://www.the-field.com/online

Niall:

Framework of Wholeness: https://youtu.be/RMcHWViy_FU