In this behind-the-scenes episode, we delve into the complexities of narcissistic and borderline personalities, focusing on the inner emotional worlds of these individuals. Key concepts are reviewed, and then we turn our focus to the differences between borderline and narcissistic rage. The discussion highlights the functions of anger and hatred, emphasizing their roles in emotional regulation and interpersonal relationships. We also explore practical strategies for managing intense emotions, particularly in the context of “rejection sensitivity” and emotional dysregulation.

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In this conversation, Gordon Brewer and I meet up again on his channel to explore what actually creates movement in narcissistic relationships—especially when traditional approaches like arguing, explaining, or “proving your point” only seem to make things worse. We talk about how shifting away from labels and facts toward moment-to-moment process, containment, and curiosity can de-escalate conflict and open space for real change, whether you’re a partner, a therapist, or someone beginning to recognize these patterns in yourself.

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In this behind-the-scenes episode, I take you inside my clinical thinking as I explore how the same behaviors—withdrawal, silence, or disengagement—can signal very different dynamics in narcissistic versus borderline personality organization. You’ll learn how to tell if a person is operating from NPD or BPD, what drives these reactions, and how to recognize the first micro-moment before anger or panic takes over. Whether your noticing these patterns in yourself or a loved one, this episode gives a clear, psychodynamic perspective on what’s really happening beneath the surface.

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

Want to go deeper? Join me in Office Hours — an open space where we explore psychoanalytic ideas together, answer your questions, and connect theory to real life experiences. Reserve your spot here

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thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com

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