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In this episode, Charlie sits down with therapist and mom of three, Nicki Cohen, to have an honest conversation about the mental load. Together they unpack what the mental load actually is (hint: it's not the to-do list), why moms carry it so silently, and practical ways to start letting go without the guilt spiral. From the glass vs rubber ball analogy to the 30% good enough parent rule, this one is full of permission slips.

**What You'll Learn:**

- What the mental load really means (it's not the doing, it's the constant thinking)

- How to figure out which balls you can drop and which ones you can't

- Why your kids and partner are probably more capable than you give them credit for

- The 30% good enough parent rule that will make you exhale

- How to put mom guilt on trial

- Why struggling alone isn't a badge of honour

- Small ways to find time for yourself (even with little ones)

**Resources Mentioned:**

- Donald Winnicott's 30% Good Enough Parent research

- Back to Me course (includes the "Mom Guilt on Trial" framework and Time Audit

**Connect with Nicki Cohen:**

Nicki is a therapist offering counselling for teenagers and adults, as well as sessions for parents to help them better communicate with their teens. She also provides consultancy to charities and organisations on anything mental health related.

Website: www.nickicohencounselling.co.uk

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