In this deeply honest episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee unpack the invisible mental load women carry every single day — from motherhood and marriage to divorce, intrusive thoughts, burnout, resentment, and survival mode.

The conversation explores how emotional overwhelm impacts both mental and physical health, why so many women feel like they have to “do it all,” and the moment many women describe as “the switch” — when they finally stop accepting less and choose peace instead.

They also open up about intrusive thoughts in motherhood, feeling alone even while married, asking for help, the shame surrounding mental health struggles, and how resentment quietly builds in relationships when one partner carries the majority of the emotional labor.

This episode is a reminder that mental health struggles don’t always look like a diagnosis. Sometimes it looks like exhaustion, survival mode, constant anxiety, or feeling mentally tapped out. Most importantly, it’s a reminder that you are not alone.

00:00 – Mental load, relationships, and how resentment builds
03:10 – Open tabs in motherhood and emotional overwhelm
06:25 – When stress starts affecting physical health
09:40 – “The switch” women talk about after burnout
13:20 – Mom guilt, work commitments, and balancing everything
17:15 – The school pickup story and worst-case-scenario thinking
21:40 – Intrusive thoughts in motherhood and why nobody talks about them
27:05 – Feeling alone while overwhelmed and needing help
32:15 – COVID burnout, breaking points, and survival mode
36:50 – How mental overwhelm can spiral into mental health struggles
41:10 – Scorekeeping, resentment, and carrying too much in relationships
44:20 – Supporting others through mental health struggles and reminding people they’re not alone

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Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done.

xxx Andrea & Kouelee

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