In this episode, Lazarus talks about those who show up for us in every season, and explores the fact that they also carry silent burdens of their own.

He asks us to pause and consider:

Who supports the supporter?

Who listens to the listener?

Who hugs the hugger?

The episode is a gentle reminder to look beyond the surface and offer kindness, gratitude, and support to those who are always there for us - even when they don't ask for it.

Key Takeaways

• Everyone is fighting a battle you may not see.

• Emotional caregivers often neglect their own needs.

• A simple "thank you" can restore someone's sense of purpose.

Pay attention to the silent struggles of those who seem strong.

Be the person who does for them what they do for you.

Call to Action

Share this episode on social media, and with someone who has always been there for you.

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Just relax - Lesfm

Episode Summary

In this thought-provoking episode, Lazarus Banda explores the idea that life's challenges—often perceived as unfair or "rigged"—can actually be powerful opportunities for growth. Whether in politics, sports, or the workplace, setbacks are often seen as signs of a broken system. But what if they're actually part of a deeper lesson?

Through calm reflection and a shift in mindset, Lazarus reveals how being invited to compete is itself a form of validation, and how perseverance, preparation, and attitude can "rig" the game in your favor. This episode is a motivational reminder that failure isn't the end—it's a stepping stone.

Key Takeaways

• Perception vs. Reality: Not all systems are rigged and malicious—some are misunderstood.
• Validation in Participation: Being shortlisted means you were seen and deemed worthy.
• Respect the Winners: A clear mind helps you learn from those who succeed.
• The Power of Perseverance: The universe rewards those who stay in the game.
• Preparation is Everything: You hold the power to tilt the game through effort and mindset.
• Mindset Matters: Your response to failure determines your future success.

Memorable Quotes

"Just being allowed to compete is a form of validation."

"The universe is rigged—to reward those who persevere."

"That rigged game? It's not your enemy. It's your teacher."

Resources & Mentions

• Original blog post: The Beauty of a Rigged Game

https://izrus.wordpress.com/2022/03/05/the-beauty-of-a-rigged-game/

📲 Call to Action

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Episode Summary:

In this episode, we explore how phrases like "life is short," "miracle," and "witchcraft" can carry deep personal meaning. We discuss the importance of approaching differing beliefs with kindness and empathy, and how understanding the stories behind words can lead to compassion and connection.

Key Takeaways:

Words and phrases can have different meanings based on personal experience.

Approaching differing beliefs with kindness and empathy is crucial.

Understanding the stories behind words can lead to compassion and connection.

Reflection Questions:

What phrases or words have taken on new meaning for you in your life?

How can you approach differing beliefs with kindness and empathy?

What stories or experiences have shaped your worldview?

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Episode Summary:

Have you ever been asked to "just talk to someone" about a situation—only to end up being the bad guy? In this episode of The Loud Introvert, Lazarus Banda explores the subtle traps of being pulled into other people's conflicts and how to navigate them with wisdom and neutrality.

Using a relatable parenting moment, Lazarus draws powerful parallels to leadership, influence, and the importance of staying neutral when mediating disputes. Learn how to wear the referee's shirt without throwing punches of your own.

What You'll Learn:

• Why people often manipulate others into taking sides in conflicts
• How to respond when someone brings you a complaint about another person
• The importance of asking the right questions before getting involved
• What it really means to be a "referee" in conflict resolution
• How to protect your leadership image and promote fairness in your team or community

• Ask: "What have you done about it so far?"
• Encourage direct communication before stepping in
• Set clear rules for engagement if you must mediate
• Stay neutral and enforce fairness—not favoritism

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Meetings can take long or become emotional when you don't know how to speak with purpose. In this episode, I show what to avoid when speaking in meetings. I also share stories to demonstrate how to speak with purpose.

Dismissive behavior:

https://www.verywellmind.com/dismissive-behavior-examples-characteristics-7505005

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Welcome back to The Loud Introvert. In this episode, I'm sharing an unconventional but incredibly powerful secret I discovered about my own marriage.

Learning from the Smallest of Mentors: I'll be talking about how I learned to be a better husband by observing the simplest, most profound reactions of my two-year-old daughter, Dumase.

Simple Gestures, Huge Impact: We'll dive into the specific lessons I learned. From the pure joy my daughter shows when I buy her a new dress, to the blush she gives after a simple forehead kiss, I'll explain how I transferred these actions to my marriage to create feelings of being provided for, protected, and deeply loved.

The "Little Girl" Within: The core takeaway I want to share is that women, just like children, crave genuine affection, safety, and sincerity. I'll talk about how I stopped overthinking my efforts and instead focused on honest, heartfelt gestures that appeal to the "little girl" inside my wife.

Bonus Lesson: A Promise is a Promise: A broken promise can cause deep disappointment, in a child and a spouse. I'll share why honoring your word is one of the most important ways to build and maintain trust in your relationship.

Join me as I explore how a father's love for his daughter provided me with some adult lessons that improve marriage.

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Speaking as the Loud Introvert, Lazarus Banda moves from the comfort of silent blogging to hosting a podcast that seeks to hold the listener's hand as he shares relatable stories that encourage, motivate, educate and heal. Intro and background music by Transistor.fm. Learn how to start a podcast here: https://transistor.fm/?via=musicThe music is provided under a Creative Commons License.Canonical URL https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/The music in this audio has been edited to to shorten the intro and lengthen the background music.