Most men don’t realize just how much pain they’re carrying, or how that pain silently bleeds into their work, relationships, and sense of self. In this short solo episode, I break down how unaddressed pain shows up in the body and mind, why “powering through” makes it worse, and what it actually looks like to begin healing. You'll learn a 4-step process for who to work with your pain in real time using writing as the tool. You’ll hear insights drawn from my own life, client experiences, and what I’ve seen working with high-performing men who’ve reached their breaking point.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why most men underestimate how much pain they’re carrying
• How to begin using writing as a tool for transformation
• A story of facing pain in relationship and what it revealed
• Practical steps (the 4-Step Enlifted Storywork Process) for working with fear and discomfort
• A powerful invitation to take the next step in your own growth

LINKS and OFFERS:

• NEW SPECIAL: Vital Man Collective Virtual Men's Group. Get one additional month free when you reach out this week (Email: Mike@Mikesalemi.io)
• NEW SPECIAL: Men of Movement Retreat: Get $1000 off on this retreat October 9-12th, when you reach out this week (Email: Mike@Mikesalemi.io)
• Book a free 15 Minute call with Mike to discussion options or offers: 1:1 Coaching, Retreats, or the Vital Man Collective Men's Group

Most men think reactivity is the problem, however it’s not always. In this episode, I break down the key difference between clean, protective reactivity and the kind of emotional reactivity that damages trust and connection. I’ll walk you through what’s really underneath those short fuses, how to shift from unconscious reactions to grounded leadership, and how to start reparenting yourself in the heat of the moment. This one’s for the men who are holding a lot, doing a lot, and want to show up better for themselves and the people they love.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• The real difference between healthy reactivity and unconscious reaction
• Why overextension leads to emotional snap points in men
• How Enneagram Type 2 patterns fuel people-pleasing and resentment
• A simple breath + grounding practice to shift reactivity in the moment
• Journal prompts to help you respond, not explode, under pressure

Links

Free Gift: The Strongman's Scoreboard

Vital Man Collective - Men's Group and Private Community

Men of Movement Retreat, Oct. 9-12th in Mt. Shasta, CA

Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Mike

Mike's Website

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a pattern you know isn’t serving you… and no matter how much you try, you keep repeating it?

In this episode, I sit down with my friend and returning guest Greg Schmaus to explore why good men so often betray themselves—even when they’re doing everything they can to “fix it.” We go deep into Family Constellations, the victim triangle, and the unconscious contracts many of us form in childhood that silently shape our relationships, sense of power, and integrity.

This conversation is honest, eye-opening, and deeply practical—especially if you’ve ever said, “I know better… but I still can’t change.”

In this episode, we cover:

• The victim triangle as a constellation
• Why men stay stuck in self-betrayal
• How childhood dynamics shape adult relationships
• The link between infidelity and hidden family contracts
• Family Constellation work as a path to healing

LINKS:

October 9-12th Men of Movement Retreat, Mt. Shasta - Learn More

Healing 4D with Greg Schmaus - Click Here

Apply to Work with Mike - Click Here

Mike's Website