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You can recite everyone else's beliefs — their rules, their idea of a good woman. But your own? This week we go underneath the rules, down to the bedrock they've been standing on: your credo. What you actually believe.

Because your quirks are your brand and your weirdness is your magic — and when you don't know what you believe, you end up living by everyone else's, quietly becoming the supporting character in your own life. That's Good Girl Ghosting at the foundational level. Let's write your own creed instead: three true things, in your own words.

If you've felt lost or foggy about who you even are after years of taking care of everyone else, this is your gentle, joyful way home.

Because when you don’t know what you

believe, you live by everyone else’s — and quietly become the supporting character in your own life. That’s Good Girl Ghosting at the foundational level. Let’s write your own creed instead — three true things, in your own words.

IN THIS EPISODE:

- Why, when you don’t know what you believe, you live by everyone else’s

- The credo that changed everything: “I deserve to be the leading lady”

- Joy is a belief too — God is honored when you play and dance and giggle

- The everyday fairy tale (four generations and one silly beach ball)

- Your Rebel Practice: write three beliefs, in your own words

CHAPTERS

0:32 The Creed I said for years before I wrote my own

2:27 When you don’t know what you believe, you live by everyone else’s

1:45 Good Girl Ghosting at the foundational level

1:56 “I deserve to be the leading lady” (The Holiday)

2:27 The belief that does the heavy lifting: introspection

3:01 Joy is a belief too — God is joy

4:05 The everyday fairy tale: four generations + a beach ball

4:37 Our quirks are our brand, our weirdness is our magic

5:13 Replace the inner critic with compassion

5:42 Your Rebel Practice: write three beliefs

6:31 Permission slips + your pinkie-toe step

A LINE TO KEEP: “When you don’t know what you believe, you live by everyone else’s. You were never the supporting character. You’re the leading lady — you always were.”

Resources:

- Free Play: REBEL JOY Card Deck — Romanticize your life and reclaim your light — one tiny rebellion at a time. Seven print-and-keep cards, each with one brave, joyful prompt. Pick a card, set a 60-second timer, and play. Start Playing Again! https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/72c327f4a4

- For the exact scripts for the next time you go blank or catch yourself saying an automatic yes, grab the Rebel Response Mini Kit here: https://rachelharrisonline.com/product-details/product/the-rebel-response-mini-kit

- FREE: Are YOU a Good Girl Ghost? Free Guide: 5 Moments You're Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It) https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/e6b737ec08

- Work with me on the Good Girl Ghost Reset — a single Rebel Hour, or the full Reset Mentorship: https://rachelharrisonline.com/work-with-me

My Substack Page, Goodbye, Good Girl: https://joyfulrebel.substack.com/

Are YOU A Joyful Rebel? https://rachelharrisonline.com/joyful-rebel

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You can name everyone else's favorites — your kid's, your husband's, your best

friend's. But when someone asks you? You go blank. This week we fix that.

If you've been feeling lost in midlife — foggy about who you even are anymore

after years of taking care of everyone else — this episode is the fastest,

most joyful map back to yourself I know. It starts with one question we

haven't been asked since we were kids: what do you love? And it ends with a

simple, do-it-on-a-receipt tool called the Favorite Things List.

Because your joys aren't fluff. They're breadcrumbs — the glittering

fingerprints of the woman you actually are, the one no amount of shoulds ever

fully erased.

IN THIS EPISODE:

- Why you can't reclaim a self you never bothered to notice

- The Favorite Things List: 3 little moves (Then / Now / the Through-Line)

- How to get specific enough that the list reintroduces you to yourself

- Why what delights you points straight at your God-given gifts

- Your pinkie-toe step: reclaim ONE favorite thing this week

Chapters

• 0:00 — The handshake: meeting the woman you've been too busy to know
• 0:23 — What today is about (and one embarrassing warning)
• 1:20 — My favorite things (yes, I sing)
• 2:17 — The one list I go back to more than any other
• 3:03 — Joy Nugget: you can't reclaim a self you never noticed
• 3:15 — Digging where the clues are buried: childhood
• 4:14 — Your factory settings + the Favorite Things List (3 moves)
• 5:40 — Then / Now / the Through-Line
• 6:21 — A peek at my present-day list (glimpses of heaven)
• 8:02 — Joy Nugget: what lights you up is your light
• 8:57 — Your Rebel Move this week
• 9:37 — The most honest prayer you've got
• 10:23 — Your pinkie-toe step
• 10:53 — Reclaim your JOY (free tools inside)

A LINE TO KEEP: "Your joy was never a distraction from your purpose.

Some days it's the most honest prayer you've got."

Welcome to the Rebellion. We've saved you a seat.

Resources:

- Free Play: REBEL JOY Card Deck — Romanticize your life and reclaim your light — one tiny rebellion at a time. Seven print-and-keep cards, each with one brave, joyful prompt. Pick a card, set a 60-second timer, and play. Start Playing Again! https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/72c327f4a4

- For the exact scripts for the next time you go blank or catch yourself saying an automatic yes, grab the Rebel Response Mini Kit here: https://rachelharrisonline.com/product-details/product/the-rebel-response-mini-kit

- FREE: Are YOU a Good Girl Ghost? Free Guide: 5 Moments You're Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It) https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/e6b737ec08

- Work with me on the Good Girl Ghost Reset — a single Rebel Hour, or the full Reset Mentorship: https://rachelharrisonline.com/work-with-me

My Substack Page, Goodbye, Good Girl: https://joyfulrebel.substack.com/

Are YOU A Joyful Rebel? https://rachelharrisonline.com/joyful-rebel

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In this episode, I get honest about the rules we’re all living by — the ones nobody ever said out loud, that we never agreed to, that somehow still run our whole lives.

I take you into my closet (the skirt-and-makeup rule I obeyed for thirty years without knowing it), into a bathroom in Houston where my dad re-caulked my tub before our move (and the completely wrong story my brain wrote about it), and into a practice I’m a little too excited about: writing your own personal commandments.

If you’ve ever paused and thought wait — where did that rule even come from? — this one’s for you. We're taking back the pen.

In this episode:

• Why the rules we never questioned (some written when we were five) quietly steer our whole adult lives

• “Good girl ghosting in rulebook form” — the slow self-betrayal of obeying a code you never wrote

• The two-part question that cracks a rule open: Who told me that? and Is this Jesus or judgment?

• The Rule Breaker List — a 3-move practice you can do on the back of a receipt

• A handful of my own personal commandments (own my magic, run toward the roar, everything is information, act with integrity)

• The bathtub-caulk story: how my storyteller wrote the wrong script about my dad — and how I got to rewrite it on the spot

• Your pinkie-toe step and this week’s permission slips

A few lines worth remembering:

• “A rule that you never said out loud can still run your whole life. So name it and write a better one.”

• “Same caulk, same muttering, completely different story. Only one of them was true.”

• “You’re allowed to ask, who told me that?”

• “I get to be soft and bright and feminine because I’m alive, not because I earned it.”

• "Your story isn’t prophecy unless you keep living it.”

Resources:

- Free Play: REBEL JOY Card Deck — Romanticize your life and reclaim your light — one tiny rebellion at a time. Seven print-and-keep cards, each with one brave, joyful prompt. Pick a card, set a 60-second timer, and play. Start Playing Again! https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/72c327f4a4

- For the exact scripts for the next time you go blank or catch yourself saying an automatic yes, grab the Rebel Response Mini Kit here: https://rachelharrisonline.com/product-details/product/the-rebel-response-mini-kit

- FREE: Are YOU a Good Girl Ghost? Free Guide: 5 Moments You're Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It) https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/e6b737ec08

- Work with me on the Good Girl Ghost Reset — a single Rebel Hour, or the full Reset Mentorship: https://rachelharrisonline.com/work-with-me

My Substack Page, Goodbye, Good Girl: https://joyfulrebel.substack.com/

Are YOU A Joyful Rebel? https://rachelharrisonline.com/joyful-rebel