This episode is about connection, trust, and sharing the heart behind The Anxious Attachment Solution. When you listen, share, or join coaching, you are trusting me with your deepest fears, heartbreaks, and hopes. So today, I share my story.

Growing up, I never felt like I fit in. In high school I was the “good girl,” the old soul, the teacher’s pet, the one hiding in classrooms and libraries. I wasn’t popular, but I desperately wanted to be liked, chosen, and loved. I dreamed of romance, marriage, and a soulmate, yet I kept chasing people who were emotionally unavailable.

In college and adulthood, my anxious attachment showed up as:

• Wanting to be chosen at any cost
• Settling for scraps of attention
• Confusing being needed with being loved
• Putting others’ needs before my own
• Believing I had to earn love through approval, caretaking, and perfection
• Feeling “too much” and “not enough” at the same time

Learning to:

• Separate thoughts from feelings
• Question the stories about worth and lovability
• Regulate my nervous system instead of chasing reassurance
• Stop abandoning myself to earn love
• Develop secure self-worth and unconditional self-love

…changed everything.

This healing journey led me to life coaching, to understanding the brain, emotions, and attachment, and ultimately to creating this podcast and my coaching program. Today I am in a deeply loving, secure marriage—not because I became perfect, but because I learned how to be safe with myself, how to manage my mind, and how to show up without letting fear run the relationship.

My mission is to help women with anxious attachment:

• Understand their brain and nervous system
• Heal self-doubt and fear of abandonment
• Develop secure self-worth and self-trust
• Create healthy, emotionally safe relationships
• Stop believing they are broken
• Learn that love does not have to be earned

If you don’t love and trust yourself, it’s almost impossible to believe someone else can truly love you. This work is about breaking that cycle and becoming the safe place you’ve always been searching for.

You are not alone. I’ve been where you are. And healing is possible.

📩 Work With Me

You don’t have to do this work alone! ✨ Schedule a FREE 1-hour consultation → amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com ✨ Join my 12-week coaching program to stop your anxious attachment cycle, build confidence, and finally feel secure in your relationships and life.

Links and Resources:

• Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious Attachment
• Linktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrain

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Email me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation