This episode draws from the story of the crippled man at the temple gate called Beautiful. Each day, he begged for coins—tokens that kept him alive but left him broken. When Peter and John encountered him, they refused to give what would preserve the cycle of dependence. Instead, they lifted him, and his feet and ankles received strength. Relief would have fed him for a moment; restoration transformed his entire existence.The reflection confronts how modern relationships mirror that scene. Many couples survive on scraps of affection—an apology, a soft word, a brief reprieve from conflict—mistaking these gestures for healing. But surface relief does not resolve the wounds that drive betrayal, neglect, or hostility. By continually feeding dysfunction with emotional coins, partners sustain paralysis rather than create change.At its heart, this conversation calls for a shift: to stop praying for cosmetic adjustments and begin pursuing deep restoration. Healing requires honesty, boundaries, and the courage to face what is broken at its source. To remain at the gate is to survive; to rise is to be restored.Subscribe to The Deep Dive for more insights from the Steps to Forever ecosystem, where each reflection offers clarity, depth, and direction for building marriages that endure.

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This episode of The Deep Dive examines marriage as a conscious partnership rather than a ritual of obligation. Drawing from PG Sebastian’s reflections, the discussion strips away inherited assumptions and explores how companionship, emotional, sexual, financial, spiritual, and psychological, must be cultivated deliberately to keep a marriage alive. It challenges the quiet erosion of intimacy that occurs when connection is assumed rather than nurtured.The episode reframes procreation as a consensual choice, not a compulsory marker of marital legitimacy, and critiques the way religious and cultural narratives can sanctify silence, enabling manipulation and harm. It calls for a recalibration of marriage from institutional preservation to human flourishing, urging couples to prioritise dignity, equality, and mutual growth.The Deep Dive is a structured interrogation of ideas, exposing what is often unspoken and pressing couples to reflect with clarity. For listeners seeking a rigorous, unsentimental view of what partnership demands, this episode offers an uncompromising lens.Connect with Steps To Forever Ecosystem and be enthralled by the wealth of knowledge, insights, and reflections from PGSebastian: Visit our website: www.stepstoforever.org

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This episode of The Deep Dive confronts the less discussed dimensions of intimacy in marriage. Drawing from the work of PG Sebastian, the episode examines how couples can renew and sustain sexual connection not through clichés or quick fixes, but by embracing deeper, less conventional pathways.The discussion challenges the idea that passion fades inevitably with time. Instead, it reveals how emotional transparency, creativity, and deliberate vulnerability create the conditions for intimacy to thrive. It explores how couples can move beyond routines, resist the culture of comparison, and reclaim a sexuality that is authentic to their unique bond.The Deep Dive is not here for the cheap and the cheerful; it interrogates the underlying assumptions that leave many couples dissatisfied. For partners willing to look beneath the surface, this episode opens a thoughtful, unflinching conversation on how to rediscover desire where love and commitment already live.Connect with Steps To Forever Ecosystem and be enthralled by the wealth of knowledge, insights, and reflections from PG Sebastian: Visit our website: www.stepstoforever.orgFollow us on Social from here https://linktr.ee/stepstoforever

Divorce...is it such a bad thing? In the Akan Language of the People of Ghana, there is a saying that loosely translates" if you fear divorce, you will not have a good marriage." I feel it speaks to the core of the subject. But let's not have a discussion before The Discussion.

Today, we discuss PG Sebastian's thoughts on divorce in this evening's episode of the Deep Dive. Grab a seat, share this episode, and ask a friend to listen to this. It might be all the nudge they might need to make a life-altering decision that will go a long way.

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This episode of The Deep Dive explores PG Sebastian’s reflection on a crucial yet often overlooked truth: love without respect cannot hold. The discussion moves past sentiment and into the subtleties—how neglect, silence, sarcasm, or control slowly corrode affection, not with loud betrayal but with quiet disregard.

It examines the ways respect erodes in relationships, from men who stop listening, minimise their partners, or withhold time, to women whose criticism, control, or emotional distance quietly dismantle connection. Each act, though small, signals a shift: love slipping from presence into performance.The episode argues that respect is not an accessory to love; it is its foundation. Without it, gestures mean little, and partnership becomes survival.The Deep Dive is not commentary from the outside; it is a structured interrogation of ideas, exposing what is often unspoken and pressing couples to reflect with clarity. This episode invites a return to reverence—not for show, but for love that’s real.Connect with Steps To Forever Ecosystem and be enthralled by the wealth of knowledge, insights, and reflections from PG Sebastian:

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The ancient story of Cain and Abel is not a myth; it is the silent, core conflict inside countless modern marriages. It's the story of the "unequal offering"—where one partner consistently brings their absolute best, their "prime cut" of effort, while the other offers only their leftovers. This is for the person who feels like they are single-handedly pushing a broken-down car while their partner is merely choreographing the look of helping.This deep analysis explores the devastating consequences of this imbalance. We dissect the psychology of the "Avoidant Partner," a master of token gestures and minimal effort, and the "Committed Partner," who bears the entire cognitive and emotional load. This isn't just about chores; it's about the murder of reciprocity and the institutionalized ingratitude that hollows out a relationship from the inside. We confront the final, tragic reckoning—when the pushing stops, and the partner who gave the least rages the most.Key Themes: Unequal effort in relationships, emotional labor, cognitive load, resentment in marriage, reciprocity, partnership, sacrifice, Avoidant Partner, Cain and Abel, burnout, relationship advice, modern marriage, unilateral sacrifice, emotional burnout.Connect with Steps To Forever Ecosystem and be enthralled by the wealth of knowledge, insights, and reflections from PG Sebastian:

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Is your marriage being haunted by the ghosts of your family's past? Do you and your partner find yourselves in the same recurring arguments, following invisible scripts you never agreed to write? Many couples feel they are building their future together, only to discover they are trapped in an architectural maze of inherited rules, unspoken loyalties, and unresolved emotional wounds.

Welcome to Steps To Forever. In this deep-dive episode, the final installment of our "Counting The Cost" series, we explore the most critical and often overlooked cost of commitment: Family Dynamics & Emotional Inheritance. We reveal why so many relationships begin to resemble the infamous Winchester Mystery House—a chaotic structure built not from a shared vision, but from the demands of the past.

This episode is not just a diagnosis; it's a practical, solution-oriented blueprint for becoming the sovereign architects of your own relationship.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL DISCOVER:

The Concept of "Emotional Blueprints": How the unwritten rules of your childhood home dictate your reactions, conflicts, and expectations in your marriage today.

The 5 Hidden Costs: We unpack the unseen price of family baggage, from the inheritance of conflict and loyalty webs to the psychic tax of unhealed wounds from your family of origin.

From Inheritor to Architect: We provide a powerful, four-phase framework to consciously design your own marriage, moving beyond default patterns to intentional partnership.

A Practical Toolkit for Change: Learn concrete strategies for excavating your own family history, drafting a new "couple constitution," establishing firm and loving boundaries with family, and committing to a lifetime of "continuous renovation."

This is the conversation you need to have before—or during—your journey to forever. Stop letting ghosts build your house. It’s time to draw your own blueprints.

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Is love really enough? We're taught that passion conquers all, but what if the most critical conversations you need to have before marriage are the ones you’re actively avoiding? This episode uncovers the 6 hidden costs that can silently erode the foundation of even the most loving relationships, turning a dream home into a beautiful ruin.

Welcome to Steps to Forever, the podcast dedicated to building a love that lasts. In this deep-dive episode—part four of our "Counting The Cost" series—we move beyond simplistic relationship advice to provide a masterclass in the architectural work required before you say "I do." We explore the essential, non-financial accounting every couple must undertake, inspired by the timeless wisdom of a builder who first estimates the cost before laying a foundation.

This is the conversation you need to have about the bridges you must cross to truly live as one.

In this episode, you will discover:

• The Architect's Fallacy: Why intelligent, successful people plan their weddings with meticulous detail but fail to design a blueprint for their actual marriage.

• Beyond Assimilation: A powerful framework for moving past the fear of one partner erasing the other, and instead building a unique "Third Culture" where you both belong.

• The Holiday Battleground: Actionable strategies for integrating family rituals and traditions without the annual resentment and negotiation.

• Cracking the Code: How to diagnose your fundamental differences in communication styles (Direct vs. Indirect) and become "bilingual" in your partner's emotional language.

• The Intimacy Blueprint: A guide to having the courageous conversations about intimacy expectations—physical, emotional, and spiritual—that culture often leaves unspoken.

• Spiritual Reconciliation: How to navigate deep differences in faith and worldview to find a shared moral language instead of a source of silent division.

• The Island of Two: A frank look at the reduced social flexibility that can isolate a couple, and how to proactively manage it.

This isn't about creating doubt; it's about building with wisdom. If you are serious about a "forever" partnership, this conversation will provide you with the tools to build a love that doesn't just stand, but soars.

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