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Parenting is a blessing and one of the greatest challenges we'll ever face! In Episode 7, "P" for Parenting, we talk honestly about the dazes, crazes, and triumphant phases of being parents in a modern world, and why there's no one-size-fits-all approach.

Indeed, children are a gift and an inheritance from God; yet parenting today comes with learning curves, strategies, various styles, and specific outcomes we cannot control.

BOTTOM LINE: We must parent with prayer, patience, unity, God's Word, and the leading of the Holy Spirit, even though the results will NEVER be up to you!

Chapters:

• 0:00 Welcome to Love Letters with Jason & Ros
• 2:33 Laying the Foundations of Parenting, What We Need to Know
• 5:39 Modeling Faith in the Family
• 9:12 Why Parenting Styles & Alignment Matter
• 10:10 "It's Rough Out in These Parenting Streets!"— Our Parenting Stories
• 11:21 Jason's Childhood & Upbringing
• 15:55 Ros' Childhood & Upbringing
• 21:53 How Childhood Experiences Impact Parenting
• 22:50 Impact of Work & Ministry on Parenting
• 35:14 Parenting Challenges are INEVITABLE!
• 52:53 Biblical Truths— Ephesians 6, verse 4, and Proverbs 22, verse 6
• 54:49 Overcoming & Parenting God's Way
• 57:32 Winning with "The 4 Cs of Parenting."
• 1:08:17 Your E7 Love Letter Challenge & Closing Prayer

Additional Notes:

THE FOUR (4) C's or PHASES OF PARENTING:
This phase process helps kids develop their: Identity, Values, Critical Reasoning, and Communication Skills.

1. COMMANDER— Establish the foundation of right and wrong. Includes the why, even if they don't understand it yet.
   1. Yes, because…
   2. No, because…
   3. The "Because I said so!" phrase doesn't work or teach kids how to express themselves, or make logical decisions between what's right and wrong, best and worse.
2. COACH— Establish core values and encourages reasoning.
   1. Would you rather do this… or that?
      1. Is this decision within the boundaries of your values?
      2. Have you considered the possible consequences?
      3. As the coach, you make the final decision; however, always explain why. They may not agree or understand, or it may make them angry with you. However, your final decision must be based on your family's values.
   2. COUNSELOR— Encourage independence and responsibility.
      1. Allow them to make the decision and be responsible for the consequences.
      2. This phase works best while they're still in your home or in college.
      3. They're paying rent and other key bills related to their transition into young adulthood.
   3. CONSULTANT— Practice "Patient Availability."
      1. Young adults, out of your home, being there when they need you
      2. Challenges Arise: Ask them whether they need you to listen or want your advice.
      3. Moms, there comes a point when your sons are no longer your "baby," encourage manhood.
      4. Consider allowing "One stimulus package" as a bailout plan.

Scripture References:

• Ephesians 6:4 "Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."
• Proverbs 22:6 "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."

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