Stop self-sabotage and procrastination today. Discover why "Self-Toxicity" is keeping you stuck and learn the 5 steps to overcome the fear of success and unlock your breakthrough.

You aren’t lazy, and you aren’t a failure. You are likely caught in a hidden pattern I call "Self-Toxicity."

In this episode of the Do Say Be Breakthrough Podcast, we explore the silent war between your comfort zone and your calling. We often think sabotage looks like laziness, but it usually mimics exhaustion, perfectionism, or "researching." If you find yourself "ghosting your goals" or causing chaos right when things are going well, this guide will help you interrupt the pattern.

We discuss the spiritual battle of purpose vs. pattern, why we protect ourselves from growth, and the practical tools you need to rewrite your identity.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• The "Toxicity" Rebrand: Why self-sabotage is actually a mismanaged protection mechanism.

• The 7 Signals: How to spot hidden sabotage signals like "ghosting goals," "over-researching," and the "I'm fine" syndrome.

• Spiritual Warfare: Understanding the collision between the version of you that you are and the version you are becoming.

• The 5-Step Solution: A practical framework to Name it, Question it, and Replace it.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Intro: The truth about vulnerability 00:57 What is "Self-Toxicity"? (It’s not laziness) 04:17 The "Professional Student" Trap: Over-researching as sabotage 08:49 The Inner War: Purpose vs. Pattern 16:28 Comfort vs. Calling: Why growth feels dangerous 21:37 "Ghosting Your Goals": Why we disappear when success is close 29:41 Chaos & Clarity: Why we create mess to avoid moving forward 35:37 5 Steps to finally stop the Self-Toxicity cycle 46:08 Rewriting your identity for breakthrough.

ABOUT THE PODCAST:

The DO. SAY. BE.™ Breakthrough podcast is for you if you're in your 30s, 40s, and 50s and feel stuck, stagnant, or unsure of how to move forward. If you've ever had any of these thoughts occupy your mind: "I feel stuck but I don’t know how to get unstuck" or, "I don’t know what’s holding me back, but I wish I could just get started” or “I just want to be the person I know I was meant to be" or “I’m afraid” or even “I just don’t know how to even begin” — this is for you!

Each episode dives into real, relatable conversations about breaking through personal, physical, spiritual and professional barriers. Learn from people just like you who have been in your shoes and made it to the other side, proving that it's never too late to start. Whether you feel like you’re too old, too young, too short, too tall, too whatever, none of that matters. What matters is taking action.

#SelfSabotage #SelfToxicity #StopProcrastinating #ChristianMotivation #PersonalGrowth #DoSayBe

Do you feel paralyzed by choices? You aren’t alone. Indecision is not confusion, and it is definitely not laziness it is an emotional stall caused by competing internal truths.

In this episode, we break down why you waver, flip-flop, and freeze when it’s time to choose. You will learn how to identify the "Fear Logic" keeping you small and the 5 specific steps to build the self-trust needed to finally move forward.

If you are a leader, a high achiever, or just someone tired of overthinking every move, this video is for you.

In this video, we cover: 00:00 - Is it Indecision or Laziness? (The Truth)

01:03 - The Root Cause: Competing Truths 03:15 - What is "Fear Logic"? 05:45 - Why High Achievers Struggle the Most 08:20 - Progress vs. Perfection 10:15 - Step 1: Name the Tension 12:30 - Step 2: Call Out the Fear 14:10 - Step 3: Who is Choosing? (Fear vs. Future You) 16:05 - Step 4: The 24-Hour Micro Move 17:30 - Step 5: Building a Self-Trust Loop

Key Takeaway: Certainty is a myth. You do not need to be 100% sure to take the next step. You just need to be 1% courageous. Stop waiting for permission to lead your own life.

👇 Drop a comment below: What is ONE small decision you are going to make today?

#DecisionFatigue #StopOverthinking #Indecision #MentalHealth #SelfTrust #Leadership #PersonalGrowth #DoSayBeBreakthrough

How do you show up as a husband and father when you are fighting a physical battle every day? In Part 2 of this powerful interview, Frank James returns to discuss the reality of navigating family life while living with Sickle Cell Disease.

We move beyond the diagnosis to talk about the "orchestrated dance" his family performs during a crisis. Frank opens up about helping his son study for a math test while in a hospital bed and how he manages to keep his marriage strong through the unpredictable nature of chronic illness.

Frank explains why he refuses to let his condition be his identity. Instead of viewing health crises as road blocks, he sees them merely as "speed bumps." We also discuss the legacy he is building and a special challenge Auntie Pat gives him for 2025.

Topics Covered:

The "Warrior" Mindset: Why Frank says, "I have it, it doesn't have me."

Parenting Through Pain: The inspiring story of tutoring his son via FaceTime from the ER.

Marriage & Support: How Frank and his wife transitioned from dating to handling hospital visits together.

The Disney World Story: How a family routine saved the day when a storm triggered a crisis.

Advice to His Younger Self: What Frank would tell his 20-year-old self about self-care and perseverance.

Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro: Living with Sickle Cell, not being defined by it. 02:15 - Being a husband and father while in crisis mode. 05:30 - The Math Test: Parenting from the hospital bed. 11:00 - The Disney World Story: When plans fall apart. 15:35 - Navigating marriage and dating with a chronic illness. 21:30 - The "Sickle Cell Warrior" mentality. 28:00 - Mentoring others and preventing despair. 33:40 - The Invitation: A challenge for 2025.

About the Guest: Frank James is a Sickle Cell Warrior, husband, and father who advocates for resilience and mental strength in the face of chronic illness.

#SickleCell #ChronicIllness #Resilience #FrankJames #Parenting #Mindset #WarriorMindset #Podcast

This episode is incredibly personal for me. Many have heard of sickle cell disease, but few truly understand the daily reality of those who live with it. In this powerful episode, I sit down with my nephew, Frank James, to have an open and honest conversation about his lifelong experience as a "sickle cell warrior."

Frank shares his unfiltered truth with me, starting with a simple explanation of what sickle cell is and what a "sickle cell crisis" actually feels like. He shared the difficult reality that for him, there is "never a day... we're pain-free" and how those with the disease learn to keep their struggles internal.

Our conversation goes far beyond the medical diagnosis to explore the significant social and mental challenges he's faced. We cover:

• Medical Prejudice: Frank reveals the "pure prejudice" he's experienced in the ER, where uneducated medical professionals have accused him of "drug seeking" or dismissed his "unbearable" pain simply because he wasn't screaming or visibly bleeding.

• Challenging Misconceptions: I've watched him defy limitations his whole life. He talks about everything from playing in a marching band to becoming a "gym rat," and the competitive spirit that drove him to prove he was more than his diagnosis.

• Advice for Family & Friends: Frank offers essential advice for loved ones—people like me—on how to be empathetic, understand the "invisible" nature of the disease, and still respect a warrior's need for independence.

I truly believe this episode is an essential listen for anyone seeking to understand chronic illness, patient advocacy, and the profound resilience of the human spirit.

This is part one of our conversation, so be sure to stay tuned for part two next week.

Ever walked into a room and felt like you were one mistake away from being exposed? You're not alone. An estimated 70% of professionals experience these feelings, and it has nothing to do with being "fake." It's about real people doubting their real wins.

In this episode, we unmask imposter syndrome for what it truly is: an invisible weight that steals confidence. You'll learn:

• The crucial difference between the "myth" of imposter syndrome and the reality.

• The 5 "Faces" of Imposter Syndrome: Are you The Perfectionist, The Soloist, The Expert, The Natural Genius, or The Superhero?

• How to spot the "vicious loop" of doubt, overwork, and dismissal that keeps you stuck.

• Actionable steps to break the cycle, including the "Do, Say, Be" framework and the power of an "evidence journal".

This isn't just about feeling better; it's about reclaiming your peace. You are not an imposter—you are expanding.

Episode Resources:

• Free Weekly Journal: Download the free workbook mentioned in the episode to reflect, record, and reframe your journey from fear to faith: https://faithoverfearebook.netlify.app

• Official Website: Learn more about the Do Say Be Breakthrough and coaching services: https://thebreakthroughcoachingexperience.com

Download the free "Fear to Faith Flow" workbook mentioned in this episode: ➡️ https://faithoverfearebook.netlify.app

Fear is a universal experience that often shows up right before growth and change. But what if fear isn't a stop sign, but a signal that what you're doing matters?

In this solo episode of the Do Say Be Breakthrough™ Podcast, we explore the high cost of letting fear lead—from missed opportunities and delayed ideas to a life redirected from its destiny.

Discover practical strategies to move past overthinking, procrastination, and the need for certainty.

In this episode, you will learn how to:

• Recognize fear's disguises (like "being practical" or "needing more research").

• Reframe limiting beliefs with a simple "but".

• Build a "proof list" of your past courage.

• Understand why confidence is built after courageous action, not before.

• Use the 5-step "Fear to Faith Flow" (Recognize, Reframe, Replace, Respond, and Repeat) to start choosing purpose over panic today.

💻 Resources

• Free Weekly Journal: https://faithoverfearebook.netlify.app

• Official Website: https://thebreakthroughcoachingexperience.com/

About The DO. SAY. BE.™ Breakthrough™ Podcast

This podcast is for you if you're in your 30s, 40s, and 50s and feel stuck, stagnant, or unsure of how to move forward.

If you've ever had any of these thoughts occupy your mind: "I feel stuck but I don’t know how to get unstuck" or, "I don’t know what’s holding me back, but I wish I could just get started” or “I just want to be the person I know I was meant to be" or “I’m afraid” or even “I just don’t know how to even begin” — this is for you!

Each episode dives into real, relatable conversations about breaking through personal, physical, spiritual, and professional barriers. Learn from people just like you who have been in your shoes and made it to the other side, proving that it's never too late to start.

Hit SUBSCRIBE now! Because "stuck" may be where you are now — but it was never meant to be your identity!

What happens when three friends of nearly 20 years get together with a microphone? Pure, unscripted chaos and a whole lot of laughter.

In this episode, we finally sit down with the long-awaited Allison, a woman who finds the funny in every situation. Join us as we hear the hilarious stories behind a pricey dinner that cost a purse , a work colleague who answered to the wrong name for an entire conversation , and a trip to a "Ram Goat Festival" that had a very unexpected menu. It's a conversation about navigating life with a positive perspective , the creative power of cooking with wine, and why true friendship means you can always be yourself.

The DO. SAY. BE.™ Breakthrough podcast is for you if you're in your 30s, 40s, and 50s and feel stuck, stagnant, or unsure of how to move forward.

If you've ever had any of these thoughts occupy your mind: "I feel stuck but I don’t know how to get unstuck" or, "I don’t know what’s holding me back, but I wish I could just get started” or “I just want to be the person I know I was meant to be" or “I’m afraid” or even “I just don’t know how to even begin” — this is for you! Each episode dives into real, relatable conversations about breaking through personal, physical, spiritual and professional barriers.

Learn from people just like you who have been in your shoes and made it to the other side, proving that it's never too late to start. Whether you feel like you’re too old, too young, too short, too tall, too whatever —none of that matters. What matters is taking action. Hit SUBSCRIBE now! Because "stuck" may be where you are now — but it was never meant to be your identity!

What if your true calling was revealed to you in the most unexpected place? For Nicola Williams, it happened in her salon chair.

In this moving episode, we sit down with Nicola, a hairstylist of over two decades who thought her job was just about beautifying people on the outside. She shares the incredible story of the divine moment a client gave her a prophetic word: "As you're stitching my weave, you're stitching lives back together."

But the journey wasn't instant. Nicola opens up about her initial resistance and the two-year battle with fear, insecurity, and feeling unqualified to lead the ministry God was calling her to. She speaks candidly about the struggle to move past her own emotions and be obedient to the call.

Learn how this obedience led to the "Stitching Lives Ministry," a powerful retreat where women experience profound healing, break generational cycles, and shed the negative labels they've carried for years. Nicola provides powerful insights on how to set boundaries, ask for help, and understand that what you've gone through is not who you are.

This conversation is a beautiful reminder that God uses our broken pieces and that He doesn't call the qualified; He qualifies the called.