Are you confusing codependency with love?

After divorce, it's easy to believe that anxiety, constant togetherness, or always needing reassurance are signs of love. But what if they're actually signs of codependency?

In this episode, Erica shares how healing after divorce helped her move from anxious attachment to interdependence, rebuild trust, and reconnect with herself.

Learn the signs of codependency, how your nervous system shapes relationships, and practical steps to create healthier, more secure love.

Together, we'll unpack what codependency really looks like, why healthy relationships can initially feel unfamiliar, and how learning to trust yourself changes everything. If you've ever lost yourself in a relationship or wondered why secure love feels so different, this episode will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• The difference between codependency, independence, hyper-independence, and interdependence
• Why calm can feel uncomfortable after years of survival mode
• How betrayal and divorce can reinforce old attachment wounds
• The surprising ways we unknowingly abandon ourselves inside relationships
• Why quality time isn't the same as emotional dependence
• How your nervous system influences the stories you tell yourself about love
• Practical ways to become curious instead of reactive when old fears resurface
• Why healing isn't about finding the "right" partner—it's about becoming the healthiest version of yourself

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The Wild Woman is the monthly space where we practice this work together. Through intentional rituals, nervous system healing, coaching, and a community of women committed to growth, you'll learn to quiet the noise, trust yourself again, and become the woman you were always meant to be.

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Divorce conflict is inevitable—but constant fighting doesn't have to be. In this episode, Erica sits down with therapist, divorce coach, mediator, and co-parenting expert Jill Kaufman to share practical strategies for reducing conflict, communicating more effectively, and protecting your children during and after divorce.

If conversations with your ex leave you feeling triggered, frustrated, or emotionally exhausted, this episode will help you understand why—and give you simple tools to respond differently.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways

• Why conflict is normal—but escalation is optional.
• The biggest emotional triggers that keep exes stuck in unhealthy cycles.
• Why your brain literally goes into "fight, flight, or freeze" during conflict.
• How emotional regulation changes every conversation.
• The communication habits that reduce unnecessary arguments.
• Why email is often better than texting during high-conflict co-parenting.
• How to stop taking your ex's behavior personally.
• Practical breathing and visualization techniques to calm your nervous system.
• Why choosing your battles leads to healthier co-parenting.
• The small shifts that can completely change your relationship over time.

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Join The Club: The Club is your private space to find yourself and your confidence again, stop second guessing every decision, build a badass post-divorce life you’re actually excited to wake up to.

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Meet This Week's Guest: Jill Kaufman

Jill Kaufman is a Therapist, Divorce Coach, Mediator & Co-parenting Expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, she made it her life’s mission to make the process less overwhelming for others.

Her book, online course and transformational group coaching program help parents navigate the overwhelming process of divorce both emotionally and strategically with less stress, more confidence and a greater sense of peace.

Jill also co-founded Divorce Network Pro, a directory of divorce professionals committed to a low-conflict, family-focused approach.

www.divorcecoachjill.com

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A conversation with a listener at the beginning of her divorce journey inspired this deeply personal episode. While packing up her home, preparing to sell, and trying to navigate the overwhelming reality of divorce, she found herself facing another heartbreaking challenge—her child began acting out.The desperation. The loneliness. The fear that you're already carrying more than you can handle—and now your child is hurting too.In this vulnerable episode, Erica shares some of the moments she rarely talks about. The moments that convinced her she was failing as a mother. The bedtime battles. The rage. The isolation. The night she threw a red candle against the wall and sat on the floor believing she had broken her child.Through those stories comes a message every struggling mom needs to hear:Your hardest moments do not define you.Struggling does not make you a bad mom.And you are far less alone than you think.🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways🔑 Why parenting through divorce can feel incredibly isolating🔑 The hidden shame many mothers carry when their children begin acting out🔑 How children's behavior can trigger fears of being a "bad mom"🔑 The emotional toll of carrying your own heartbreak while supporting your child through theirs🔑 The story of the red candle moment and the lesson that changed everything afterward🔑 What Erica's therapist taught her about repair, resilience, and good motherhood🔑 Why community matters when you're navigating divorce and parenting alone🔑 The difference between being a bad mom and being a mom in a hard season🔑 Practical tools for navigating emotional outbursts and difficult transitions🔑 The reminder every struggling mother needs to hear: you're doing better than you think🌟 Resources & LinksThe ClubJoin The Club for weekly live support, coaching, and connection with women who understand the realities of divorce and rebuilding.

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