How does grief change your identity? It doesn’t happen loudly or all at once. It happens quietly, stripping away pieces of who you used to be until you realise you’re no longer just "healing" - you’re trying to figure out who you are now.

Trigger warning: This episode contains honest discussions regarding grief, bereavement, and mental health.

In this week's podcast, we dive deep into identity grief and the "life audit" that follows a major loss.

We explore the internal shift that happens when the roles we once held - like being a sibling or a best friend - suddenly disappear.

In this episode, we discuss:

- Identity after loss: Why we feel like different people after a bereavement

- The Life Audit: Practical habits (walking, mindset, and health) to help process the "fog."

- Reinvention vs. Distillation: Why grief doesn't "change" you, it strips you back to your core.

- The Lone Sibling: Coping with the changing family roles after losing a brother or sister.

- Living in the Present: How to carry a legacy forward without staying "frozen in time.

"This isn’t a conversation about "getting over it" or rebuilding a new you. It’s about distillation, finding clarity in what remains when everything has been stripped back.

If you are struggling with your mental health after loss or wondering why you don't feel like "yourself" anymore, this conversation is for you.

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Trigger warning: this episode discusses grief and loss.

We are often told to "stay strong" and "hold it together" after a loss, but what happens when the adrenaline finally runs out?

In this episode, we explore the Adrenaline Hangover - that physical and mental crash that often hits months after a tragedy. We discuss why the traditional definition of male strength often leads to burnout, and why "out-disciplining" your grief is an impossible task.

From synchronised migraines to the reality of the 100-day wall, we’re breaking down why the hardest part of the journey often starts long after the funeral ends.

In this conversation:

• The physical toll of "performing" as if you're fine.

• Why your body crashes when the initial survival mode ends.

• Redefining strength as communication rather than silence.

• The legacy of "Mike’s Fence" and returning to our childhood roots.

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Around a hundred days in, life starts asking more of you again.
More energy. More presence. More normality.
And grief doesn’t get lighter to meet it.

Trigger warning: this episode discusses grief and loss.

In this episode we talk about why grief can feel harder once life carries on. When the shock fades but the weight stays the same. When people check in less. When tolerance drops. When everyday moments demand more than you have to give.

We talk about being a hundred days in. About the firsts you don’t prepare for. Birthdays and celebrations that feel heavier than expected. And the quiet guilt of not coping with what you think you should be able to handle by now.

This episode doesn’t offer solutions.
It sits in the part where life has picked back up and you’re still carrying the same thing, just with less room to carry it.

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