How do you know when it’s time to set a boundary—and how can you express it in a way that’s both loving and clear? In this episode, discover the signs that a boundary is needed, why boundaries are part of God’s created order, and the three qualities that make a boundary truly healthy.

You’ll also learn Alicia’s favorite tool for expressing boundaries, the “Boundary Sandwich”, a simple framework that helps you set limits with kindness, clarity, and confidence.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

[00:00] How do you know when it’s time to set a boundary?

[02:00] What emotional signs point to the need for limits?

[04:00] Why are boundaries part of God’s design for creation?

[05:00] What makes a boundary healthy, clear, and kind?

[07:00] How can consistency build confidence in boundary setting?

[08:00] What biblical examples show boundaries in action?

[11:00] When should you express a boundary out loud vs. keep it between you and God?

[12:00] What is the “Boundary Sandwich” and how does it work?

[14:00] Real-life examples of the Boundary Sandwich in family, friendship, and church settings

RESOURCES:

Want practical help learning to manage your emotions better? Join us in Alicia’s Emotional Confidence Club!

We’re a Christ-centered community of women learning to process everyday emotions—like disappointment, overwhelm, and shame—using science-and-Scripture-based emotional management tools that make emotional healing practical, powerful, and personal.

Every 6 weeks we welcome new members and focus on a new topic.

Apply now to join the waitlist (limited number of spots available!) at AliciaMichelle.com/club.

RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 223: “People Pleasers, You Don’t Need to Apologize for Your Decisions”

Episode 233: Restore Your Relationships: Create Guilt-Free Boundaries for Less Family + Friendship Drama

Episode 326: A People Pleaser’s Guide to Setting Boundaries (When You’re Afraid to Offend Others)

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Want support applying what you’re learning here each week about managing emotions with science and scripture? Come join us in the Emotional Confidence Club—apply now at AliciaMichelle.com/club.

Do you struggle to say no because you’re afraid of disappointing others? In this episode designed for people pleasers, Alicia shares why boundaries aren’t selfish but a God-designed way to protect your peace and honor Him. Discover the lies that keep people pleasers stuck, how Jesus modeled healthy boundaries, and how to use the A.D.D. model (Acknowledge, Discern, Decide) to process the fear of upsetting others.

Learn why serving others well actually starts with setting limits, and how to find the courage to follow the Holy Spirit instead of the fear of man.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

[00:00] Why do people pleasers struggle most with setting boundaries?

[04:00] Why are boundaries God-designed instead of selfish?

[07:00] How did Jesus model healthy boundaries in His own life?

[09:00] What hidden pride might be fueling your people pleasing?

[12:00] Why you don’t need permission from others to set limits

[15:00] How can you follow the Spirit instead of fearing rejection?

[17:00] What deeper roots might be driving your people pleasing?

[21:00] How to use the A.D.D. model (Acknowledge, Discern, Decide) to process emotions around boundaries

RESOURCES:

Want practical help learning to manage your emotions better? Join us in Alicia’s Emotional Confidence Club!

We’re a Christ-centered community of women learning to process everyday emotions—like disappointment, overwhelm, and shame—using science-and-Scripture-based emotional management tools that make emotional healing practical, powerful, and personal.

Every 6 weeks we welcome new members and focus on a new topic.

Apply now to join the waitlist (limited number of spots available!) at AliciaMichelle.com/club.

RELATED EPISODES:

Episode 223: “People Pleasers, You Don’t Need to Apologize for Your Decisions”

Episode 233: Restore Your Relationships: Create Guilt-Free Boundaries for Less Family + Friendship Drama

Episode 234: “Rebuild Your Rest: Set Up Soothing Rhythms + Boundaries for Less Overwhelm”

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Want support applying what you’re learning here each week about managing emotions with science and scripture? Come join us in the Emotional Confidence Club—apply now at AliciaMichelle.com/club.

What do you do when life feels overwhelming, prayers go unanswered, or God seems silent? In this conversation with Niki Hardy, author of God Can We Chat?, we talk about bringing raw questions and doubts to God, and why honest wrestling with Him can actually strengthen, not weaken, our faith. You’ll discover how to separate hurt from God and hurt from the church, and how remembering His presence can give you the courage to keep walking through mystery, pain, and uncertainty.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

[00:00] Can You Bring Your Doubts and Frustrations Honestly to God?

[05:00] Why Wrestling with God Can Strengthen—Not Destroy—Your Faith

[09:00] What’s the Difference Between Hurt from God and Hurt from the Church?

[13:00] How Does God Meet Us in Silence, Mystery, and Unanswered Questions?

[16:00] Could Doubt Actually Be a Superpower in Your Faith Journey?

[20:00] Practical Tools from God Can We Chat? to Process Questions with God

[24:00] What Role Does Community Play in Healing Spiritual Disappointment?

[28:00] How Can You Hold on to Hope When Life Doesn’t Make Sense?

RESOURCES:

Want practical help learning to manage your emotions better? Join us in Alicia’s Emotional Confidence Club!

We’re a Christ-centered community of women learning to process everyday emotions—like disappointment, overwhelm, and shame—using science-and-Scripture-based emotional management tools that make emotional healing practical, powerful, and personal.

Every 6 weeks we welcome new members and focus on a new topic.

Apply now to join the waitlist (limited number of spots available!) at AliciaMichelle.com/club.

RELATED EPISODES:

Ep 297: Believing in God’s Love Again After You’ve Been Hurt with Rachael Adams

Ep 195: Pt 1: How Can I Believe That God Loves Me (In My Head and My Heart)?

Ep 196: Pt 2: "How Can I Believe That God Loves Me (In My Head and My Heart)?"

Send us a text

Want support applying what you’re learning here each week about managing emotions with science and scripture? Come join us in the Emotional Confidence Club—apply now at AliciaMichelle.com/club.