What if the story you've believed about yourself for years isn't the whole story?

In this episode of The Beauty In The Mess, I'm joined by Liz Owens—certified coach, behavioral strategist, and founder of House of Worthship. Liz shares her personal journey of overcoming self-doubt, imposter syndrome, disordered eating, and the pressure of living up to everyone else's expectations. Through years of personal growth and studying human behavior, she's discovered that while our past shapes us, it doesn't have to dictate our future.

Together, we explore why awareness alone isn't enough to create change, how our identities are often built around survival rather than authenticity, and practical ways to interrupt unhealthy patterns so we can begin living with greater purpose and self-worth.

Whether you've struggled with self-confidence, emotional eating, perfectionism, or simply feeling like you're never enough, this conversation offers practical tools and hope for creating lasting change.

In This Episode

2:30 – Liz shares the experiences that shaped her journey and why she became a behavioral strategist.

9:40 – Why so many of us hide parts of ourselves and perform to meet other people's expectations.

12:00 – Understanding imposter syndrome and the deeper issue of self-worth.

15:00 – How childhood experiences and society both contribute to feelings of unworthiness.

19:30 – The power of empathy and Liz's simple "Notice, Ask, Act" framework for responding instead of reacting.

23:00 – Why self-awareness isn't enough—and how to begin creating lasting behavioral change.

26:30 – Productivity, busyness, and the hidden connection between achievement and self-worth.

29:00 – Why guilt keeps us from resting—and how to reframe it.

33:30 – Building evidence that change is possible through small, intentional actions.

35:30 – How habits are formed, why motivation matters, and practical ways to make healthy choices stick.

42:00 – Celebrating your wins instead of only focusing on your mistakes.

44:30 – Liz shares the mission behind House of Worthship and the importance of finding a supportive community.

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· House of Worthship: https://houseofworthship.com

· Instagram: @houseofworthship

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What if the biggest challenges in your relationships didn't start with your relationship at all?

In this episode of The Beauty In The Mess, I'm joined by marriage and relationship coach Keith Dorscht, who has spent more than 30 years helping couples strengthen their connection and overcome deeply rooted patterns. Drawing from both his professional experience and his own personal journey through childhood trauma and divorce, Keith shares practical insights into why relationships struggle and what it takes to build lasting connection.

Together, we discuss emotional maturity, the lasting impact of childhood experiences, the importance of eye contact and intentional communication, and why healing begins when we're willing to face our pain instead of avoiding it.

Whether you're married, dating, rebuilding after heartbreak, or simply hoping to improve your relationships, this conversation offers encouragement, hope, and practical tools you can begin using today.

2:40 – Meet Keith Dorscht and the experiences that shaped his calling

8:55 – How childhood trauma quietly follows us into adult relationships

14:40 – The five stages of emotional maturity and why they matter

18:20 – Common misconceptions about marriage and lasting connection

22:10 – Why couples struggle to communicate without conflict

25:15 – The surprising power of eye contact and non-verbal communication

35:20 – Why healing requires more than simply letting time pass

39:20 – One simple practice that can strengthen any relationship

42:45 – The importance of community and asking for help

45:10 – Keith's Communication Cure and practical resources for couples

✨Connect with Keith Dorscht:

· Website: https://keith.coach

· Learn more about Keith's coaching, webinars, and The Communication Cure by visiting his website

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· Website: thebeautyinthemess.com

· Instagram: @the.beauty.in.the.mess

· LinkedIn: Michele Simms

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We all have patterns that shape how we think, respond, and move through life. But what if those patterns are keeping us stuck?

In this episode of The Beauty In The Mess, Michele sits down with transformational and executive behavioral coach Debbie Longo to discuss how our behaviors, perceptions, and mindset influence everything from our relationships and careers to our emotional well-being. Debbie shares the personal story that led her into coaching after overcoming severe depression and explains why she believes lasting change begins with changing our internal world.

Whether you're navigating burnout, struggling with negativity, feeling trapped by old habits, or simply looking for a fresh perspective on personal growth, this conversation will challenge you to think differently.

2:20 – Debbie shares the personal journey that led her into transformational coaching.

7:30 – How our thoughts influence our actions and why mindset matters.

12:10 – Visualization, perception, and preparing your mind for future success.

18:30 – Helping leaders and organizations create healthier workplace cultures.

24:20 – Why changing yourself often changes how you experience everyone around you.

27:20 – Why people often return to old habits, even after making progress.

32:10 – How lasting behavioral change develops and why consistency matters.

36:00 – Can changing your mindset really reduce stress?

39:40 – The similarities between personal coaching and executive coaching.

42:20 – How your environment affects your perception—and how to change it without changing your circumstances.

48:20 – Breaking repetitive life patterns and why we often recreate the same situations.

52:00 – Debbie explains her coaching roadmap and why her goal is to help clients become self-sufficient.

57:20 – Where to learn more about Debbie and her work.

01:05:40 – Shannon's TEDx talk and The Gift of Failure

01:08:40 – Being brave enough to try before you're ready

✨Connect with Debbie Long:

· Website: https://debbielongo.com

· Website(2): https://lifeinbloomny.net

· LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debbie-longo-life-in-bloom-ny/

· Instagram: @debbie.life.in.bloom.ny

✨ Connect with Michele Simms:

· Website: thebeautyinthemess.com

· Instagram: @the.beauty.in.the.mess

· LinkedIn: Michele Simms

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