Today, we are talking about how technology changes relationships, dating, and marriage. Our relationship started before the internet and before cell phones, so we have a unique lens on what has shifted, and we also see today’s realities through our daughters’ experiences and Melissa’s work as a counselor.

We dig into 24/7 connectivity and the pressure to respond instantly, the real pros and cons of dating apps, and how social media creates a highlight reel that makes people feel like they are the only ones struggling. We also explore the problem of technoference, when your phone, or other tech device, interrupts connection in real time, and we talk about digital privacy, oversharing, and why everything you post online is more permanent than you think.

We close with the specific tech boundaries we use in our marriage and a Pen to Paper challenge to help you set tech guardrails that actually protect trust in your relationship.

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Chapters

00:00 – Welcome and introduction

01:11 – Dating before the internet and cell phones

06:55 – Navigating tech challenges in modern relationships

08:52 – 24/7 connectivity and the pressure to respond immediately

10:25 – Dating app pros and cons

16:39 – Social media’s impact on your relationship

22:51 – Personal technology security

24:30 – Permanency of online content

25:13 – Bullying and cyber stalking

26:21 – Inked Moments: The “babies are coming” pager

29:08 – Healthy tech habits

41:02 – Pen to Paper: Discuss and set digital boundaries in your relationship

44:49 – Closing thoughts

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