Nick’s journey is fascinating. From one of New Zealand’s top amateurs, to early professional success, through a period where the game nearly broke him, and now into a phase where he’s playing some of his best golf with a completely different mindset.

What changed?

This conversation dives into that turning point. We explore how stepping away from outcome-driven thinking, and into a more free, self-expressive way of playing, unlocked both performance and enjoyment. It’s not about abandoning discipline or hard work. It’s about understanding who you are, and allowing that to show up when it matters most.

We talk about the tension between structure and freedom, why many athletes end up playing “with handcuffs on,” and how identity, not just technique, shapes performance. Nick shares how his experience in the YouTube golf world helped him rediscover a version of himself that had been lost in the pursuit of perfection.

There’s also an honest look at the realities of professional golf. The pressure, the internal dialogue, the sustainability of performance, and the importance of building a life that isn’t entirely dependent on results.

Some of the key ideas we unpack:

• Why playing “freely” is easier said than done, and why it takes practice
• The difference between careless, careful, and carefree performance
• How identity and self-awareness shape decision making under pressure
• Why many athletes drift into compliance instead of authenticity
• The hidden cost of success when enjoyment disappears
• How building something outside your sport can reduce pressure and improve performance

This isn’t just a golf conversation. It’s about how we perform, how we relate to pressure, and how we avoid becoming the bitter version of ourselves in pursuit of success.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but something still isn’t clicking, this one’s worth your time.

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Seemed a cool episode to release the week of the Masters! This week I am joined by Dr Raymond Prior. Discover how to cultivate "stable confidence" and perform at your best under pressure. In this episode, Dr. Raymond Prior shares his journey into performance psychology, debunks common myths about confidence, and offers practical strategies to perform freely regardless of external factors.

In this episode:

• Dr. Prior discusses how confidence relies on internal permission rather than external outcomes
• Breaks down the five sources of unstable confidence: outcomes, opinions, past/future events, thoughts/feelings, and context
• Explains how to develop resilience through acceptance and strategic mental practices
• Shares insights on training for performance, not just technique
• Highlights the importance of language and mindset for young learners and elite performers

Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction and overview of performance psychology and confidence
02:16 - Dr. Prior's background and journey into performance neuroscience
05:17 - Why traditional confidence hacks often fail & the concept of stable confidence
06:15 - Definition of confidence as permission to perform freely
08:06 - The five unstable sources of confidence: outcomes, opinions, past/future events, thoughts, and context
09:56 - How to develop self-generated, stable confidence amid external instability
11:39 - The role of acceptance over certainty in consistent performance
13:50 - Addressing anxiety and the "Yips": stages and mental mechanics
16:56 - Techniques for acceptance and managing pre-performance anxiety
20:18 - Insights from a figure skater’s panic experience & how anxiety hijacks performance
23:46 - Strategy for letting go of hedging shots and trusting oneself
27:41 - Variance in top athletes' scores and embracing imperfection
28:37 - Supporting young athletes through growth mindset and risk acceptance
33:11 - The damaging effects of judgment and fixed mindset praise in youth development
34:58 - The importance of language: avoiding constrictive words like "should"
36:21 - The difference between fixed and growth mindsets for sustained success
37:45 - Practical ways to foster a learning environment that embraces failure
44:03 - How to mentally prepare for on-course challenges and simulate practice under pressure
52:02 - Strategic on-course exercises to build acceptance and reduce anxiety
55:35 - The science of acceptance and how to practice it long-term
56:41 - Explaining V-shaped (threat) vs. A-shaped (threat and constriction) thoughts and their impact
61:04 - Cultivating a V-shaped mindset for resilience and performance stability
63:14 - How our beliefs shape our experience and the way forward for high performersResources & Links:

• Golf Beneath the Surface: Unlocking Performance with Dr. Raymond Prior

• Raymond Pryor - LinkedIn

• Talking Performance Podcast

Connect with Dr. Raymond Prior:

• LinkedIn | Twitter

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In this conversation, David Galbraith and I explore how courage, mindset, and the metaphor of the handbrake influence personal and team performance across sports, leadership, and everyday life. DG emphasizes the importance of psychological layers, cultural alignment, and coaching as key drivers of excellence. A pivotal moment in the discussion is David's skydiving experience, which serves as a powerful metaphor for confronting fears and unlocking true courage. *Davids Audio drops out for the last minute so it appears that I am talking to myself but it really is just goodbye and you will get the gist of it!

Key Topics:

• The metaphor of the handbrake: understanding mental restraint in high performance.
• The role of courage as a decision: moving from fear to freedom.
• Insights from skydiving as a reflection of living unconsciously vs consciously.
• Building resilience and harmony between fear and energy using scientific insights.
• The impact of coaching and culture on team and individual responses under pressure.
• Strategies for leaders and coaches to create environments of empowerment and responsibility.
• Differentiating goals and targets: strategic thinking for success.
• The importance of layered learning and staged exposure, like skydiving, to develop confidence.
• Practical ways to apply mental and emotional layers in work, sport, and life.
• Cultivating leadership that fosters legacy and independence.

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In this conversation with Lawrie Montague we explore the complexities of coaching and performance in golf, emphasizing the importance of awareness, the journey of seeking knowledge, and the evolution of coaching philosophies.

We discuss the challenges players face under pressure, the significance of continuous learning, and the need for a holistic approach to coaching that goes beyond just technical skills.

The dialogue highlights the value of personal growth, the impact of reading, and the necessity of adapting to the ever-changing landscape of the sport.

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THIS IS A RE PUBLISHED EPISODE

This Episode was recorded during Covid when Dave Rennie was with the Wallabies (Australian Rugby Team) and I hosted the podcast with David Galbraith (DG) who was with Renz when the Chiefs won back to back super rugby titles.

Dave Rennie has just been appointed the head coach of the All Blacks and I can't wait to see how this season unfolds and I think Dave Rennie will be up for the challenge.

In this episode you will discover how Dave Rennie fosters identity, resilience, and community within elite rugby teams, translating lessons from Glasgow and New Zealand to the international stage. This episode dives into leadership, culture-building, and the mindset required to succeed at the highest levels of sport and beyond.

Key Topics:

• The importance of culture and how history influences team identity
• Strategies for building genuine connections with players in different environments
• Leadership development and empowering players to lead
• Managing team cohesion amidst COVID restrictions and online engagement
• Differences in coaching Australian vs. New Zealand rugby culture
• The role of diversity and inclusion, including Pacifica representation
• Creating visual symbols and shared experiences to reinforce values
• The influence of family, loyalty, and integrity in team culture
• Building resilience and leadership in youth and club rugby
• Approaches to facing tough matches and rivalries like the Crusaders or All Blacks

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So excited to be joined by Pippa Grange, a performance psychologist for the last session of 2025.

In this chat Pippa discusses her unique approach to performance psychology, emphasizing the importance of 'winning deep' versus 'winning shallow.' She explores how fear impacts performance, the significance of love and relationships in sports, and the need for a cultural shift in how athletes view success. Pippa also shares insights from her work with the English football team and her upcoming book on regenerative performance.

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NOTE: My Audio is not great, but good news I don't talk too much!!!

In this conversation, I speak with Dr. Jay-Lee Nair and we delve into the intricacies of sports psychology, focusing on the balance between high standards and expectations in athletic performance.

We discuss the importance of understanding controllable factors, the role of identity in performance, and the necessity of reflection processes for athletes. The conversation also highlights the significance of feedback systems and the complexities of loving one's sport, emphasizing that love for the game can manifest in various forms beyond just enjoyment.

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In this conversation, Owen Eastwood, a performance coach, shares insights into his experiences with the Ryder Cup and the unique challenges of coaching in professional sports. He discusses the importance of team cohesion, the role of data analytics in performance, and the mindset required for success in high-pressure situations. The conversation also touches on the emotional resilience needed to navigate the intense environment of competitive sports, particularly in events like the Ryder Cup. In this conversation, Owen Eastwood discusses the critical aspects of performance in sports, emphasizing the importance of immediate performance, team cohesion, and the role of storytelling in building confidence among athletes. He reflects on his experiences with the European Ryder Cup team and the Invincibles podcast, exploring how historical narratives can inform present-day performance. Eastwood also addresses the significance of belonging and the impact of environment on athlete well-being, advocating for a more holistic approach to sports culture that prioritizes joy and connection.

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