Someone asked us recently how we incorporate God into our life. And honestly? We don't incorporate him. He's not a habit we slot in — he's become the lens through which everything else makes sense.

But getting here nearly cost us everything. Our marriage, our identity, our sense of safety. We had to unlearn a version of God built on performance and guilt before we could meet the one who just wanted to sit with us in the mess.

This is probably our most vulnerable conversation yet. We talk about faith deconstruction, what it meant to let God into the places we were most ashamed of, and why the kindest thing we ever did for ourselves was stop trying to be good enough.

What we talk about:

• What deconstruction actually means (and why it's not destruction)
• The moment faith stopped being about rules
• Meeting God in people and places we never expected
• How healing trauma and deepening faith go hand in hand
• Why God doesn't need you to have it all figured out

0:20 How We Actually Integrate Faith Into Daily Life

1:40 Why Deconstructing Faith Doesn't Mean Destroying It

4:22 Reframing Who God Actually Is

7:11 When God Didn't Feel Safe

10:05 Vulnerability as the Gateway to Real Faith

15:24 Healing Trauma and Finding Freedom in Faith

19:08 Encountering God in Unexpected People and Places

23:25 What Unconditional Love Actually Looks Like

31:29 Why Healing Your Past Isn't Selfish

39:22 You Don't Have to Figure It Out Before Coming to God

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