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  • BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection You are Unseen

    BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection You are Unseen
    2025/08/10
    BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection: You are *Unseen*

    If you’ve ever loved someone with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and felt like they never truly saw you — this episode explains why. Through the lens of BPD fragmentation, we uncover how their “mirror” doesn’t reflect you at all, but instead the broken, distorted image of a wounding parent from their past. You’ll learn:

    Why the “mirror” of a person with BPD is cracked from early relational trauma.
    How loved ones become trapped in distorted roles they can’t escape.
    Why no amount of love or explanation can make them see the real you.

    The first step to freeing yourself from their reflection and reclaiming your identity.
    If you’ve felt invisible, miscast, or frozen in the wrong role — this episode will give you the clarity you need to step out of their fragmented mirror "reflection" of you for good.

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    28 分
  • The BPD Love Paradox

    The BPD Love Paradox
    2025/08/06
    The BPD Love Paradox

    Why does someone with Borderline Personality Disorder crave deep love—only to sabotage and destroy it when it arrives? In this episode of Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup Podcast I explore the heartbreaking paradox at the center of BPD. From BPD self-fulfilling prophecies, the acting out of unconscious BPD repetition compulsions, and defensive splitting to the tragic pattern of testing love until it breaks, A.J. Mahari compassionately unpacks why intimacy feels both irresistible and terrifying to those with BPD. Whether you're loving someone with BPD or navigating the disorder yourself, this episode offers clarity, empathy, and a path toward healing.

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    27 分
  • The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck

    The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck
    2025/08/05
    The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Are Stuck

    (From My Codependency Inside Out Surviving Cluster B Podcast)

    The BPD Fantasy of who you thought they were and then that loss, over and over again, is why Codependents are stuck in the Fantasy and Trauma Bond abandoning self not knowing how to face your own multi-layered pain now. The idea of letting go feels like an imminent ending to who you used to be, who you have lost in the BPD relationship that was a BPD Fantasy.

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    10 分
  • BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication

    BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication
    2025/08/02
    BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication

    BPD fragmented self blocks connection and communication. I dive deeply into the core reason a person with (especially untreated) BPD cannot hear you or see you. These are toxic relationships. When you are relating to a person with BPD in any relationship type, there is no "we". No mutuality, no reciprocity. They don't see you or hear you and in this podcast episode I get to the core of why and how Borderline Personality is a relationship disorder of disconnection and inability to attach and communicate that persists due to the fragmented lack of self in every person with Borderline Personality (unless and and until extremely well treated over 8-16 years in a psychodynamic modality of specialized BPD treatment.

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    41 分
  • BPD Triggers Explained

    BPD Triggers Explained
    2025/08/01
    BPD Triggers Explained

    BPD Triggers Explained. What do you still need to understand or understand more about people with Borderline Personality and what triggers them and why? Do you still feel like their triggered responses, emotional dysregulation, splitting on you and blaming you for everything means that their triggers are your fault?

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    21 分
  • Is Codependency Really An Addiction?

    Is Codependency Really An Addiction?
    2025/07/31
    Is Codependency Really an Addiction?

    From my Codependency Surviving Cluster B Relationships Podcast

    An often asked, and I think, an often misunderstood question where Codependency is concerned. My answer in this podcast to "Is Codependency Really an addiction" with my 35 years experience working with clients in Codependency recovery is, "yes" and "no" and I think that this approach gives my clients the best of "both" possible asserted "understandings" of Codependency.

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    21 分
  • BPD Ego Syntonic vs Ego Dystonic & BPD Alloplastic Defenses

    BPD Ego Syntonic vs Ego Dystonic & BPD Alloplastic Defenses
    2025/07/21
    BPD Ego Syntonic vs Ego Dystonic & BPD Alloplastic Defenses

    In BPD people with (especially) untreated BPD have ego syntonic alloplastic defense mechanisms. This leaves so many people who were or are still trying to relate to someone with BPD as a partner, friend, favorite person, etc walking on eggshells and at the same time experiencing crazy-making painful toxic relational dynamics.

    What does BPD Ego syntonic alloplastic defenses truly mean for you? People with BPD here you mention a feeling of yours and feel that you are attacking them.

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    21 分
  • Borderline Persecutory Object Invisible Partners and Exes

    Borderline Persecutory Object Invisible Partners and Exes
    2025/07/19
    Borderline Persecutory Object - Invisible Partners and Exes

    Borderline persecutory object, a psychoanalytic concept, within Objects Relations Theory, that explains so much about Borderline Personality Disorder. This is the path to truly understanding the results of BPD splitting, perception, unconscious repetition compulsions re-experiencing and re-enactment in BPD that captures the core of understanding so many individual core elements of Borderline Personality disordered "relating" that just does not work.

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    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    30 分