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  • Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?

    Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?
    2025/06/19
    Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?

    Does going no contact after a BPD breakup, ghosting, or discard, make your Ex with BPD think about you? No contact is not a strategy to manipulate a Borderline. No contact is a serious action BPD Exes need to take as soon as one can to truly be engaging your own healing and to break the trauma bond. No contact is difficult, people often feel guilty. Learn more about the slippery slope of using no contact for anything but your own healing and recovery. It is totally not healthy to re-contact your BPD Ex or try to manipulate him or her to re-contact you in any attempts for closure, getting heard, trying to "make them" get how much they hurt you because it doesn't work
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    45 分
  • BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying

    BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying
    2025/06/13
    BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying

    When people with BPD (usually untreated) are called out their abusive behaviour, words, actions, they deny, deflect, and defend. Is this because they have "memory loss" - they don't really know or remember what they did? Even when showed evidence they don't take any personal responsibility - they weaponize it and claim you have victimized them. It's crazy-making. Do they have memory loss or are people with BPD lying to escape personal responsibility and accountability?

    Why Codependents need to know what you know and believe that and not give any person with Borderline Personality the benefit of the doubt. People with BPD when you try to hold them accountable will turn it around on you and blame you for what they often are lying about saying they "don't remember" because they incapable of actually taking responsibility and/or accountability or doing anything about what you've called out because they can't repair ruptures either.

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    1 時間 15 分
  • Wanting a BPD Ex Back The Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions

    Wanting a BPD Ex Back The Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions
    2025/06/01
    Want a BPD Ex Back? Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions

    Want a BPD Ex back? It's the fantasy bond and wanting answers to unanswered questions. Questions that most (especially untreated) with Borderline Personality don't know the answers to. They are too defended, more often than not, to even try to "communicate" with you.

    The fantasy of getting a BPD Ex back after they ghost you and END a relationship - it really has an end that most won't, don't and/or can't accept. It's fantasy bonds and unconscious Codependent repetition compulsions that continue to drive your limbo of lostness and agony with you believing you can somehow get them back, get answers, to make it work. That just does not work and you continue to abandon yourself in this process.

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    38 分
  • Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted

    Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted
    2025/05/26
    Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted

    Unknowingly loving a Borderline and suddenly ghosted? Wondering what on earth just happened? Maybe you know now you were loving a Borderline and were suddenly ghosted. It's a terribly traumatic experience knowingly or unknowingly. Many in wanting the BPD Ex back relationship recycle and may have been ghosted multiple times.

    Everyone wants the Borderline back immediately. The pain of being ghosted is terrible. Many just want that pain to go away not realizing that if you can get your BPD Ex back you are only going to find temporary relief from your pain due to intermittent reinforcement - which will not last, just like these relationships and relationship recycling don't last.

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    31 分
  • BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?

    BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?
    2025/05/13
    BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?

    In a BPD on/off relationship? Are you wondering, can I change, like heal some Codependency, and have more energy and tolerance to make a BPD relationship
    work?

    Have you been ghosted and so want your BPD Ex back? Maybe you've been
    discarded, and you are emotionally terrified that you won't hear from that person
    ever again? What can you do to change? Anything? Can it work?


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    1 時間 4 分
  • BPD Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate

    BPD Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate
    2025/05/08
    Borderline Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate

    As a BPD survivor, I recovered almost 40 years ago, I explain the deep and extremely pervasive abyss of Borderline Personality and the profound disconnectedness that drives all aspects of Borderline behaviour (abuse) and inability to relate in healthy, consistent, or congruent, even remotely healthy ways in relationships.

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    1 時間 19 分
  • Want BPD Ex Back and Holding Out Hope?

    Want BPD Ex Back and Holding Out Hope?
    2025/05/05
    Want BPD Ex Back Holding Out Hope?

    Are you holding out hope that you can get your BPD Ex back? Like so many people, most with Codependence, many Ex's of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, continue to give so much power and control of their lives, and selves to a person with BPD.

    If you really believe that you need to contact your BPD Ex because if they respond angrily or in further devaluation of you then, and only then, they will "force" you into to having to accept that the "relationship is really over?" Your relationship is, actually, already over. If you make contact and reverse hoover your BPD Ex and they devalue you again, you are not going to be able to actually then just move on. You are trapped in the fantasy bond and the deeper trauma bond. Therapy is your only way out of all the pain and rumination.

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    46 分
  • BPD Emotional Arrested Development & Object Other Relating

    BPD Emotional Arrested Development & Object Other Relating
    2025/05/01
    BPD Arrested Emotional Development and Object Other Relating

    BPD arrested emotional development and Object Other Relating. For more people than not with Borderline Personality (male and female) their early childhood emotional development arrests by or before the age of 2 years. People with BPD and/or all the patterns of BPD were not able in childhood to go through the crucial stages of early childhood development and that arrested emotional development is when and why people with BPD don't know who they are.

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    40 分