Attention Adult CHildren of Divorce (ACoD): What if your parents’ divorce—whether it happened when you were a toddler or when you had toddlers of your own—is still shaping your relationships today? In this episode, Marriage Coach Meisha Marshall opens our eyes to the hidden impact of parental divorce on adult children, and introduces her empowering new course, Divorce Cycle Disruptor. If you’ve ever wondered why you sabotage good relationships or struggle with setting boundaries, this conversation might just be your turning point.

“Even if your parents’ divorce seemed amicable or ‘a long time ago,’ it still shaped how you love, argue, and connect.” — Meisha Marshall

• How does my parents’ divorce still affect me now, even as an adult?
  
  

• What is the “divorce cycle,” and how can I break it in my own relationships?
  
  

• Why do I keep repeating the same relationship patterns, even when I try not to?
  
  

• How can I help my adult children process my gray divorce?
  
  

• What does healthy communication look like in a marriage?

Meisha shares the heart behind her new course, Divorce Cycle Disruptor, and walks us through how unresolved family dynamics can echo into our marriages, parenting, and personal growth. With humor, clarity, and heartfelt wisdom, they unpack what it means to stop repeating unhealthy relationship cycles—and how to finally chart your own path forward. Whether you're single, married, or divorced, this episode is an invitation to rewrite the story you've inherited.

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Welcome to the final episode of my three-part mini-series, Unraveling the Silver Knot: Gray Divorce and the Family Web

You’ve been the caregiver, the peacekeeper, the glue holding it all together. But now, after the divorce, everything feels… different. So where do you fit in the family now? In today’s episode, we’re talking about stepping into a new role—not as the one who holds the past, but as the woman who leads with wisdom into the future. It’s time to reclaim your voice, your influence, and your vision—as the matriarch of your own story.

“A matriarch isn’t someone who has it all figured out—she’s someone who chooses

strength, love, and dignity, even when things are messy.”

- Pat Fenner

• Why becoming the matriarch is about presence, not power

• Letting go of guilt and embracing your evolving identity

• How to influence your family through emotional steadiness

• Simple ways to start rewriting your family legacy with grace

• A vision of your future that includes joy, confidence, and connection

What’s one way you can show up differently this week—as the woman you’re becoming? Take a moment to reflect, journal, or share with a trusted friend.

🎥 The phrase I mentioned - "You is kind, you is smart, you is important" - is spoken by the character Aibileen Clark in the movie and book "The Help".

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Welcome to episode two of my three-part mini-series, Unraveling the Silver Knot: Gray Divorce and the Family Web

You didn’t plan to be single at this stage of life. You thought this season would be about downsizing, doting on the grandkids, and finally taking that trip to Tuscany—not Googling how to hang curtains solo or explaining your new mailing address to a 6-year-old. In this episode, I’m getting real about what it means to reclaim your life, rediscover your identity, and build a future that isn’t just “what’s left”—it’s what’s next.

“Your grandkids aren’t watching for perfection—they’re watching for courage.”

- Pat Fenner

Important Takeaways -

• How to reclaim confidence and identity post-divorce
• Tips for navigating solo grandparenting with joy
• Why your healing helps your kids and grandkids heal, too
• Simple ways to cultivate peace, purpose, and a sense of “enoughness”
• That reinvention doesn’t have an age limit—and joy doesn’t need permission

After decades of being part of a “we,” becoming a “me” again can feel confusing, exhausting, and a little lonely—but it can also be liberating. This episode is a kind, funny, and practical exploration of life after gray divorce. We’ll talk about rebuilding routines, reawakening parts of yourself that got lost in the marriage, and modeling resilience for your family. Whether you're grieving, growing, or both, you're not broken—you’re becoming.

🎙️ Episode 3-14 - ”Who’s Side Are You On?” And Other Questions We Don’t Want to Ask

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💬 SpeakPipe – How has this series helped you begin to untangle your family’s post-divorce knots? Leave me a message and tell me about it!→ https://www.speakpipe.com/PatFenner