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Stop Talking to Yourself Like That

Stop Talking to Yourself Like That

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 Let’s keep in touch! Grab my free mini-courseWork with me one-on-oneJoin RESOLVE Evolved Today Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. *************************************** The way you speak to yourself did not start with you.The words spoken over you, and the ones that never came, do not simply pass through, they take root. They settle into the soil of your mind, growing into beliefs that shape how you see yourself, how you move, and what you believe you are allowed to have. Over time, those beliefs become patterns, and those patterns begin to feel like identity. What started as someone else’s voice can become the one that guides your choices, questions your instincts, and defines your worth.Along the way, that voice can feel like the truth. A mother’s words can echo so loudly that they become the lens through which everything is filtered. Even her silence can speak, teaching you what is valuable by what was never affirmed. Without realizing it, life can begin to orbit around unspoken rules, where rest feels like something to earn, joy feels excessive, and expression feels unsafe. The result is a quiet shrinking, a life shaped more by limitation than possibility.Change begins by listening closely to what has been running in the background. Not to silence it immediately, but to understand it. To sit with it, to trace where it came from, and to gently introduce something new. This is not about fixing what is broken, but about tending to what was planted. With new language, spoken with intention and care, new beliefs can grow, creating space for a life that feels more honest, more grounded, and more your own.In this episode, I sit down with Britnei Nicole to explore how language shapes identity, behavior, and healing within the mother wound. We talk about how words become belief systems, how traditional Black parenting influences what is passed down, and how even silence can define self-worth. This conversation opens the door to a different way of relating to yourself, one where you begin to choose the words that will shape who you are becoming.“You don’t have to attack your thoughts to change them; you can respond with care. There is healing power in not trying to change the feeling right away, but sitting with it.” – Britnei NicoleTopics Covered:00:00 — Episode snippet00:10 — Introducing our guest, Britnei Nicole03:03 — How does language shape who we become?05:00 — Language as the technology of belief06:36 — Healing requires making thoughts “moldable”09:00 — Your mother as your first mirror11:40 — How does language impact identity?15:56 — Power struggles between Black mothers and daughters19:01 — Language that creates self-doubt and weakens self-trust20:26 — Rewiring your thoughts takes practice23:21 — Root belief: Life is made of suffering27:07 — Limiting yourself once meant staying safe28:10 — You are built for a different time30:20 — Choose to do your own inner work31:46 — Taking your mother off the pedestal33:38 — Perfection blocks real connection36:40 — Her perspective is not the only truth37:31 — Rest, joy, pleasure40:00 — No “right way” to be a Black woman43:08 — Start with your needs before pleasure47:10 — Build a relationship with yourself48:16 — Release shame around centering yourself51:09 — Rebuilding your expression and voice54:36 — Sit with the critical voice first58:10 — Validate before trying to change01:00:04 — Healing is a relationship with yourself01:01:10 — Safety allows to access deeper memories01:02:19 — Healing starts with changing your self-talk01:03:17 — Words carry power and energy01:04:15 — Healing doesn’t erase your experiences01:06:29 — Turning pain into strength01:07:39 — You can put down what isn’t yours01:10:25 — Connect with Britnei NicoleKey Takeaways:“Language is the technology that creates these patterns of thought in our mind.”“If we’re constantly thinking a certain way, we become a certain way.”“Language brings the experience to life and makes it something your brain can engage with.”“To heal something, it has to be like clay—you have to be able to soften it and make something new out of it.”“A mother is a daughter’s first mirror of what it means to be a feminine being in the world.”“You can actually take control of your thoughts, decide what you think, and change them.”“We are still parenting from survival, even though we are no longer living in those conditions.”“Limiting yourself once meant staying safe, but now it keeps you small.”“You have to choose to run your own updates because no one else can do it for you.”“Your body has been trained to believe you don’t deserve goodness, so even pleasure can feel unsafe.”“Confidence comes from competence, and competence comes from practicing expression.”About the GuestBrittany Nicole is a writer, speaker,...
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